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作者: liuqiang 时间: 2003-4-20 00:14
标题: 寻找爱情
我是一个懂生活的男人，30岁，有正式工作，在加拿大觉得唯一缺乏的是爱情，希望能找到她.
liuqiang1973@hotmail.com

作者: 超级流氓兔 时间: 2003-4-20 02:20
Good luck

作者: liuqiang 时间: 2003-4-21 10:46
hi

作者: feifei3001 时间: 2003-4-21 13:16
When you find love, you lose love; it’s better to sow seed in your heart and cultivate love. Good luck!

作者: 不悔今生 时间: 2003-4-23 16:47
女人找男人是……“寻男友”
男人找女人是……“找爱情”

东方女子历来以“含蓄”为美，似乎现在完全不同了。哈哈！不知道现实生活中，生活在异乡的女同胞是不是如网络中一样，敢说敢做呢？不过，显然，蒙城男人是女人的几倍多，因为女人找男人是一呼百应，而男人找女人……好寒酸！

相比之下，我还是更支持男同胞！朋友，加油找，一定能成。

作者: 此ID从此以后作 时间: 2003-4-23 20:53
不悔今生，你说蒙城男人是女人的几倍多，请问数据是缘自于哪本资料，或者哪个档案？你是不是把人家加国人，外国人，CBC，还有台湾人，香港人全部排除以后再自己得出得结论？如果是这样，呵呵，只怕我也是这个结论～～～～不过，对一个男人而言，自信和本事是吸引女人的最重要因素吧？一呼百应的男人也有的是了啦（我没说我），找不到男人的女人难道就一定没有？
凡事不要太武断了

作者: 不悔今生 时间: 2003-4-23 21:53
呵呵!血色: 你对这个很在意吗? 是不是那个地方说的让你不舒服了……我是门外人，只是观察了一下发言的情况，男人关注女人多。当然说几倍多没有资料根据，但有一点你应该明白，男人和女人比率问题是国外生活的一个不小的问题。你关心的是不是这样一个问题。如果不是，那就算了。当然你提的很好，下次用词我会更准确！谢了

作者: 此ID从此以后作 时间: 2003-4-23 22:36
不悔兄，过谦了～～～～我只是随便说说，何必太在意啊。没有什么地方让我不舒服啊，你说的也是事实。毕竟出国的中国男性比女性多多了，不但需要和大陆的同胞竞争，还有和港台的同胞和老外竞争，即使排除对女性不感兴趣的男生，从中国过来的男性的数量还是远远超过从中国过来的女性。所以你所说的其实还是有一定道理的啊，你在谈论普遍现象，我是在找你的茬呢，跟你谈个别现象了。其实，我们不需要一定把眼光focus在
这个领域啊，那会限制自己的发展。

我在这里还想和你讨论另一个问题，我知道白种女人对黄种男人的兴趣没多少，就像我们对非洲黑人的兴趣没多少一样。我并不是在这里发表种族歧视的言论，我只是想说个事实。
但是，CBC其实也蛮好的啊。或者说那种很小就来了的那种。不过，会不会因为文化的问题，导致沟通的困难。还有，她们多半和爸妈住的，他们的爸爸妈妈会不会反对她们和我们交往。我才打电话，结果是她妈妈接的，还好，她妈妈还会说国语。不过，她才发给我e－mail，我没多久给她电话，而她妈妈就说她已经睡觉了～～～～～我在想是不是因为我是男生，或者说是因为我是说国语的男生的缘故～～～～～～·
我蛮担心她妈妈会不会怪她，或者质问她我和她什么关系，她妈妈管她好像蛮严的，不停地追问我有没有什么要紧事，是她什么人，我说了是朋友了，她后来又问一次，搞得我怕死了！不过也是人之常情，我总不可能怪她妈妈啊！要是我女儿有她那么漂亮，我想我也不会随便让什么男孩子乱和她接触的……
哎，不知道那个电话会把我生活带到什么地方去，4年前，就是一个看似不打紧的电话，差点把我推到地狱里去了，但愿历史不要重演吧～～～～～～

作者: 此ID从此以后作 时间: 2003-4-23 22:40
另外，她只会法语和粤语，英语差一点，国语就～～～
让人晕的地步～～～～～～，这样子谈恋爱是不是有点不可能？？毕竟，感情是需要沟通的，我英语也就那样，随便说说还行，要是谈恋爱水准还不够，至少不会说什么甜言蜜语了～～～～～～

作者: 飞鸟阳子 时间: 2003-4-23 22:46
呵呵，爱情是可以“寻找”的吗，是不是用“撞到”或“碰到”好一些呀。

作者: 不悔今生 时间: 2003-4-23 22:57
血色！你的问题不好解决……因为感情这东西讲不好，喜欢一个人开始总是跟着感觉走的，听你的话，你喜欢上ＣＢＣ了！呵呵……因为我和喜欢的人打电话是很在意的，想的很多，为她也想很多，想到自己难受的地步。你是不是和我一样呢？呵呵

不过，回过头来看看，爱一个人，只要是发自己内心的，没有坏念头，我想你大可勇敢的去爱！爱情没有国界，语言更不是问题，我一个教授的实验员就告诉我，“一个中国男孩能讲一口很好的法语”她觉得难以相信，问这个人为什么讲这样好的法语，因为中国男孩为了得到一个女孩的爱！很可惜，我也没看上白女孩，要不我的法语也就用不着这样难进步了。

相信自己，从心底里发出的爱是最有感染力的，付出自己的所有力量，包括学好法语来证明你对她的爱！

作者: 此ID从此以后作 时间: 2003-4-23 23:26
我？？爱上CBC？？嗯～～～～不知道怎么说
我和她在地铁里遇到的，很凑巧，地铁来的时候，我突然有种感动（呵呵，我以前信主的，所以就用基督教的语言习惯了，他们都叫做那是一种感动）要往前走，直到地铁停我也停，当地铁停的时候，她就出现在我面前了……我们上了车，我找到座位坐下，她和她的女伴站着。她们开始用法语聊天，我开始还以为她们也是康大的国留呢，所以看了她们一眼，发现她也在看我……
我发现那是一个很漂亮的女孩子……后来我实在忍不住，看了她很多次，想看仔细点，可是发现我每次看她，她也一定会在看我，可能是不是我头动得太明显了？所以，一直没敢盯着她看，后来我们在一个中转站下了车，又去了同一个地方等换乘的车。你可以认为我跟着她，我实在是被吸引了，但是，事实上，换乘车的位置是我每次换地铁都去的位置，因为那个地方赏了车再下车的时候离出口最近——后来才知道，我们根本就是住在一起的～！！！
等车的时候，她看表，我……就大胆问她时间了，后来就和她聊起来，猪都看出来了我心里在想什么，我只是那一下不知道为什么就控制不住自己，平常自制力还是蛮好的，基本上不会这样子和陌生人搭腔，不管她多漂亮（也许那是叫做故作矜持吧）
后来她给我留了她的hotmail和tel
但是我还是有自知之明的啦，自己又不是什么超级大帅哥，又没有金钱和本事，追美女的人难道还少啊，她难道会是大傻瓜，不知道从中挑好的啊，干嘛选我？？
而且她是天蝎座的，天蝎座什么性格不悔兄也应该略知12吧，比尔·盖茨就是天蝎的，具有阴暗面，对权力金钱的欲望是12星座中最高的，而且性欲超强
偏偏去查sina的48星区详解，她的那个星区和我的又刚好适合做情侣，不过我以前那个也是这个星区的，还不是很快就分手了，我这次实在不想再来一次速食面了
不知道怎么老是遇到类似的事件

作者: 不悔今生 时间: 2003-4-23 23:31
这个话题,最好不要在这里谈!我给你了信,你收到了就回一个,这样比较好一点!很晚了,晚安!

作者: 此ID从此以后作 时间: 2003-4-23 23:34
呵呵～～～好吧～～～那你知道我得邮箱？？？

作者: 梦想流浪 时间: 2003-4-24 00:46
哇,你们两个打字不累的.
佩服!

作者: 无丝蛛YOYA 时间: 2003-4-25 13:46
呵呵~~血色，加油~~支持你~~美丽的东西大家都喜欢，相信自己的实力啊~~感觉这东西很重要，还有缘分也是一样的，你们很有缘分啊，好好把握，好女孩，美女不要放过啊~~不要为了以前的阴影而放弃一个美好的追求，不要想太多太多了~~做自己目前想做的就行了~~相信自己的直觉~~COME ON，我还是永远支持你呀~~~

作者: 雪山飞虎 时间: 2003-4-27 17:22
You don't need to look for love, it will find its way to you. No matter where you are,the only way to find a lover is to be one !

作者: johnnyyanming 时间: 2003-4-28 23:41
love?

作者: joy ma 时间: 2003-4-30 04:22
嘿，如果你是真正要找一个终生伴侣的话，我有一个在温哥华的朋友，条件不错的，只是72年的，你介意吗？

作者: cy65 时间: 2003-4-30 20:23
男友是老外,只觉沟通甚难，讲给朋友听，朋友说爱情用眼睛不用嘴，天，看来我真没爱上他，否则怎么不用含情脉脉的眼睛打动他。
有朋友是日本人，英语法语极臭，嫁了只讲英法语的老公，看她平淡无奇的外表，真视她为奇人。

作者: jadis 时间: 2003-5-1 04:18
嘿嘿，潇潇雨乱下，楼主寻的是爱情；老外有什么稀奇，没有爱情的婚姻也比比皆是；唯爱情之难难于上青天

作者: cy65 时间: 2003-5-1 13:15
jadis:
最近一直不见你,没想到跟姐姐瞎逛到这,你的腿好了吗?

作者: jadis 时间: 2003-5-1 14:13
雨JJ是不是爱玩桥牌的那位姐姐？谢谢你的关心，用心赠送你一颗铃兰(5月1日的欧洲人互赠铃兰以示祝福)，我好多了；要是夏季来欧洲，如我还没走，联系我。 wink

作者: cy65 时间: 2003-5-1 22:16
jadis:雨JJ就是雨JJ,打得好80分,却没机会学桥牌.
希望早去欧洲,不过有时间去时,你应已回来.
谢谢你的铃兰,回赠你渥太华的郁金香.

作者: jadis 时间: 2003-5-4 16:20
雨姐姐，郁金香收到了，谢谢 :cool:
本来这两天想写几行字名为“花语”给你看，但起先懒得打中文，后来又没了意境，罢了罢了。

作者: johnnyyanming 时间: 2003-6-1 22:09
姨？

作者: cy65 时间: 2003-6-1 22:14
jadis:
才发现有好久没来了，你好吗？

作者: jadis 时间: 2003-6-2 16:45
Thanks, I'm fine, staying still in Paris but walking and talking in this BBC. I'm thinking to return to the real life where I’m. Wish u get a wonderful summer.

作者: kylin 时间: 2003-6-2 18:03
好运！
只要你停的找能找到你满意的！不过眼界放宽点，不要太局限！这里中国女的太少了！

作者: johnnyyanming 时间: 2003-6-4 22:57
hi

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-4 23:38
Could you guys go to other part of this bbs to help those who are seaking their GF or BF?

You guys are talking about love. I'd like to see you take down-to-earth action to earn love.

Here are you guys the love song I like most.
URL
http://members.tripod.com/ArtofRomance/waiting.html

Right Here Waiting For You

Richard Marx

Oceans apart day after day
And I slowly go insane
I hear your voice on the line
But it doesn't stop the pain

If I see you next to never
How can we say forever

Wherever you go
Whatever you do
I will be right here waiting for you
Whatever it takes
Or how my heart breaks
I will be right here waiting for you

I took for granted, all the times
That I thought would last somehow
I hear the laughter, I taste the tears
But I can't get near you now

Oh, can't you see it baby
You've got me goin' crazy

Wherever you go
Whatever you do
I will be right here waiting for you
Whatever it takes
Or how my heart breaks
I will be right here waiting for you

I wonder how we can survive
This romance
But in the end if I'm with you
I'll take the chance

Wherever you go
Whatever you do
I will be right here waiting for you
Whatever it takes
Or how my heart breaks
I will be right here waiting for you
Waiting for you

作者: cy65 时间: 2003-6-5 15:46
jadis：
看来你该回到你的地方，而他们也不再感慨蒙城中国GIRL少了。但一直奇怪，我身边就有俩可爱的GIRL没有男友，怎么又不是中国男人太少？

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-6 18:08
Labatt, this is my favorite love song too. My first love, that's 10 years ago.....I love him sooooooooo much, crazy days...

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-6 18:57
Could you tell me where I can download this song? not just music. Thanks in advance!

作者: ssskkk 时间: 2003-6-6 20:40
阿杜的RIGHT HERE WAITING http://music.jnnc.com/mp3/du/skyblack/01.mp3

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-6 22:55
Thank you SSSKKK, but his voice and song is different with the song in my memory. Actually, I always heard this song somewhere, everytime when I hear this song, it make me think of him.... I like Richard 's sing more. Thanks you very much anyway.

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-6 23:03
Hi MJ,

I suggest you go to Google to search for "right here waiting for you". From the search results, you will find lots of links to that song. I downloaded that song before in this way.

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-6 23:07
I already did before I asked and I found yours too.

But all the links are music, not song and I got some weird links in my IE now and it scared me to continue to search . :confused:

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-6 23:11
Hi Mj,

Could you tell me your love story? The song was written by a singer whose GF was about to leave him. But your case is different.

I love this song because I think if I fell in love with a girl again, I would do the same thing. You miss your ex so much that you hope he will be back aside you. Right? Or you think you will always wait for the lucky guy whenever and wherever he comes to you.
That is sad, isn't it?

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-6 23:14
Give me your email address. I will send you the files I downloaded.

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-6 23:23
My story is same. I decided to leave him and after so many years, I regret and I think if I can choose now, I will go wherever he go and take any chanve although I don't know in the end if I can with him or not.so, somehow, I don't agree one word in this song: "But in the end if I'm with you, I'll take the chance" . He is not love his GF enough or don't what he lose...Anyway, it 's sad. Maybe just because I decided which make me feel more sad . anyway. 99% Love story is sad story. Don't you think?

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-6 23:24
My story is similar. I decided to leave him and after so many years, I regret and I think if I can choose now, I will go wherever he go and take any chanve although I don't know in the end if I can with him or not.so, somehow, I don't agree one word in this song: "But in the end if I'm with you, I'll take the chance" . He is not love his GF enough or don't what he lose...Anyway, it 's sad. Maybe just because I decided which make me feel more sad . anyway. 99% Love stories are sad stories. Don't you think?

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-6 23:35
Please send to my email is 3e@Sympatica.ca
Thank you , Labatt. and Good night

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-7 23:08
Hi MJ,

First of all, I am sorry I couldn't agree with what you said 99% of love stories are sad. There are sad love stories in lots of the movies. Because it is not easy to make your dream come true. I think love likes a seed you planted in the ground. It must have good condition to grow. If the weather is not favorable for it to grow, it will not grow up and bloom.
However, many love stories do have happy endings. Like some flowers still develop under bad situation because it could well adapt itself. You did say that if you chose now, you would go for him.
But did you do something?
Did you take any action such as calling him, writing to him?
If I were you, I would do whatever it took to find out at first that if he still loved you or if he still loved his GF now.
I know you cherish your ex-lover so much that you couldn’t get rid of his shadow. Never mind, you have to start from where you fell.
Secondly, you said that you decided to leave him.
What made you do that?
Could you list a few reasons that helped you make that decision?
After that, you could check to see if the reasons were still strong enough so that when the same situation happened again, you might make the same decision.
Thirdly, if it were your fault to leave him, try to contact him and say sorry sincerely. And ask him whether or not he could forgive you.
In summary, in order not to feel sad, you have to do something solid.
It is also very healthy and helpful for you to have your existing or future love last longer.

Hopefully, it helps.

Good night!

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-8 10:09
Hi, labatt. Thanks for suggustions. I relized it after a few years and I did them all before I came to Canada, but he already got married when I called him. I just tried to have beautiful end with him. That's all. So now I am very healthy.

just your song make me think of him again and sometimes when I hear this song. he is my first love. I guess nobody can forget their firt love. I should say 99% first love is sad, sorry, Since I wrote the message so fast that night.

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-9 09:47
Please check your email to see if you get the files I sent.

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-9 11:55
Hi MJ,

Have you received my files?
I am sorry for sending them today because they are in my another PC.

How do you feel now about the song?
Do you taste your tear drops?

Best Regards,

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-9 13:56
I mean

Do you taste your tear drops while you are listening to the song?

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-9 17:51
Thank you very much! I reply your email. Please see my answer by email. what do you think I should feel now? wink

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-9 22:04
Hi MJ,

I will see your reply tomorrow.

I have no right to think what you should feel.
Canada is a free country. you are free to feel anything you want.
Could you talk about him, your first lover?
His character, his likeness and his favorites.
I think your first lover is the type of guy you like most.
You will always try to match other guy with him, won't you?
A friend of mine whose GF left him told me that his GF took him to the same park, took the same seat and kissed him the same way as she did to her ex-BF. And interesting thing is that she told him all the details of what they did before. She tried to make a copy. I understand that girl because I think she wanted to have the same feeling to this new BF as his ex-BF. But that really turn my friend off.
What do you think about this story?

作者: johnnyyanming 时间: 2003-6-14 09:54
tabnarc

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-14 11:11
It sounds like that MJ doesn't like to share her first love story with guys here.

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-15 11:07
Sorry, I don't want to make you disappointed. Anyway, I owe you, since you did send me a beautiful song. I should tell you my story by return. As I told you I am not good at telling story as some people. Anyway, let me tell you something here wink Actually, my story is very usual. I was just too young for love at that time, that was my first love. When you were young, you don't know what is love and what you sould do. He is three years old younger than me and when he left my city to go back his city and asked me go with him. I said " NO". In my eyes, he is too good, everything is great, he just like a 精美而易碎的瓷器, but younger than me....,and he didn't know where he will go finally, he wanted to come to U.S.A to study, and I planed to stay in China and just changed a very good job in my city....I don't know if we can be together fianlly and if he is good as a husband or not, I am afraid that 精美的瓷器太...易碎

that's make me afraid to go with him, 很俗吧? Now, I am in Canada, and he is in China. What a life!
Anyway, I didn't follow my heart, that's all....I regret sometime is because of now I know when you are young, you should take a risk if you think it is worth to do. If you never try, you never know.

I agree with you that nice people don't have good luck sometimes. This world is unfair.

I am not lucky enough too. I missed my best chance in this world to have my dreamed man and I didn't meet any man after who can make me crazy again like that.

But, I don't think people will learn lesson from love story. No matter how, everyone still make similar mistakes. People will learn lesson from their own exeprience, not from others. I always believe this.

作者: nm20018 时间: 2003-6-15 20:28
Hi

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作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-17 10:40
Hi MJ,

I sent your another song I like. Hopefully you will enjoy it.

Norah Jones - Don't Know Why Lyrics

More Norah Jones Lyrics HERE

I waited 'til I saw the sun
I don't know why I didn't come
I left you by the house of fun
I don't know why I didn't come
I don't know why I didn't come

When I saw the break of day
I wished that I could fly away
Instead of kneeling in the sand
Catching teardrops in my hand

My heart is drenched in wine
But you'll be on my mind
Forever

Out across the endless sea
I would die in ecstasy
But I'll be a bag of bones
Driving down the road along

My heart is drenched in wine
But you'll be on my mind
Forever

Something has to make you run
I don't know why I didn't come
I feel as empty as a drum
I don't know why I didn't come
I don't know why I didn't come
I don't know why I didn't come

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-17 20:26
you are totally wrong, Picasso. I never acted like mother in my whole life. That' s not my strength.

... Comparing him, I am like a silly young girl, although he is younger than me, but he is more mature than me...If you say because I am too silly, maybe I will say "yes". but who is smart when they fall in love. wink

作者: Picasso 时间: 2003-6-17 22:41
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作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-18 13:13
I don' see anything wrong here to write message in English. You are welcomed also to write in French if you can. A lot of people can understand Chinese, English and French.
Languages are tools of communication. people are free to choose their own. You can see the title of this bbs and some of the menus are in English.

Only you here care about that.
I don't know why you do that.

作者: MJ 时间: 2003-6-18 21:39
umei, if I write in Chinese, probably I will use one hour to type what I said here and I must be careful to choose right word too. Did you see many people type wrong chinese words here? Everyone know typing in English is fast than chinese. I don't mind my English is bad or good. I just say what I need to say. if you don't want to read , don't read! You have right to read or not and I have right to choose typing either in english or Chinese. Anyway, I won't come here again. I already said everything I need to say. take care , you guys

作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-20 10:26
Hi Umei,

I had a few exchanged messages with MJ in the last couple of days. I think I understand her posting better than you. Because I read her messages word by word.
Umei, you don't read her message carefully, do you?
When she said she would come back is NOT because what you said. No one really care about what you said except youself.
As she said in her message, she thought she had talked too much. She is not the kind of woman who like to talk about her story openly. It is already up to top of her limit. She made a retreat so that she could continue to keep her perfect boy in her dream. A song called "right here waiting for you" triggered her feeling fly high in the sky. She has to take time to balance herself because she never before reach that height.

作者: liuqiang 时间: 2003-6-22 17:49
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作者: labatt 时间: 2003-6-22 18:34
Hi Liuqiang,

After reading so many messages in this topic, what do you think?
Do you make any progress in finding the love you want?

Good Luck!

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