你会说，性格决定命运！ 也许是吧，我似乎就是那种所谓心比天高，命比纸薄的人，好惨，永远不会把握现在，可也没话好说，唯有尴尬地笑笑，好不尴尬…作者: dragonfly 时间: 2002-10-14 09:41
That's the life.
We are the lost people.
The more you expect, the more disappointed you will be.
Want less, you will be HAPPY.
sorry. can not type in chinese.作者: dragonfly 时间: 2002-10-14 10:31
Oh, want to go to see the red maple leaves too.
Any suggestion?
THX作者: f-117 时间: 2002-10-14 16:22
又找到了一个和我相似的同胞。
你好，你好作者: Folks 时间: 2002-10-14 19:21
我相信大部分移民多有类似的经历. 经历会增进一个人的气质. 我想你现在同 4 年看问题会不一样,那是因为经历和自我的发展.
你的文笔非常准确地反映了我们很多人的现状. 我曾经有过比你更大的迷惑的- 世界是非常美好的: 一旦你走出树林.
生活除了有阳光,蓝天,空气,枫树, 青山, 小镇之外, 还有未来和希望 - 那是努力,运气和才华的集合. 至于努力和运气,Stephen R. Covey 有一本书"The 7 Habbits of Highly Effective People" - 这其实不是一本书, 而是生活的哲学.
希望你走出这个迷惑的树林- 到达新的意境作者: tiger 时间: 2002-10-14 20:33
看了半天不知道你现在想要什么？
至于“4年的经历”，我想排队是一种经历，可又有谁想排队呢？还是多些有用的经历好一些。
现在的新移民大都有很现实和明确的目标，来的时候知道要放弃什么，“海龟”的时候知道想得到什么。不过长征路上能到延安的又有几个人呢，但愿我们不做移民路上的冤死鬼。作者: whamor 时间: 2002-10-14 23:26
quebecbaby, 重新审视过去，重新计划将来，或许你需要勇气跳出现在的怪圈，也不知道什么是对什么是错，想想是什么东西让你迷茫了。
当一个人遇到难题或者危机的时候，可以用下面的方法来解决，就是在纸上写出4个问题，然后回答这4 个问题：
如果是遇到什么危机让你忧虑或者担忧的，回答这些问题：
1。我担忧的是什么？
2。我可以怎么办？
3。我决定怎么做。
4。我什么时候开始做
虽然这几个问题很简单，但很有效。
Good luck! :cool:作者: hiaeamontreal 时间: 2002-10-14 23:51
"The 7 Habbits of Highly Effective People" - 这其实不是一本书, 而是生活的哲学.
i have this book bought from china, i read it in china, here, sometimes i read it , enjoy it.if someone want to read it, i can lend it to you.作者: hiaeamontreal 时间: 2002-10-14 23:54
Quebecbaby
can i make a friend with you, just a common friend, if you like, e-mail to me作者: blueangell 时间: 2002-10-15 11:18
Quebecbaby:
As a girl, I know your feeling. Please love yourself, take good care of yourself and look forward.I would like to tell you that you are such a strong, lovely and smart girl! Whenever you feel sad and lonely, find your favorate songs and films to enjoy, remember not those kind of sad ones wink .
One can never be too greedy. Between 山这边 and 山那边, you should find a way to balance. Just like to find a man to marry -- find characters that you mostly cherish and ignore those small shortcomings by 睁眼闭眼 wink .
hiaeamontreal:
I would like to borrow this book from you, but not now. I will mail to you then. Thanks.作者: Quebecbaby 时间: 2002-10-15 12:04
真的很谢谢大家!Especially folk,hiaeamontreal,da xi gua and blueangel, thank you guys! thank you for your understanding and suggestion!网上这个虚幻的世界总使我觉得更亲近...
应该采取什么样的心态其实我知道,我现在追求的就是一份踏实的生活,无论在哪里,真的厌倦了一个人漫无目的的漂泊.可似乎还是觉得很"力不足",但我还没有放弃,也许,慕然回首,它就在"灯火阑珊处"吧 :-)作者: xiaparis 时间: 2002-10-15 14:38
Hi, I have the same experience like, and I left our country justly for 4 years too. I'm roamingthe the word from China to Paris, and than to Montreal. I have the same feeling like you. Cheers, lonely.作者: keqi 时间: 2002-10-15 16:12
"你若是那含泪的射手，我就是那一只不再躲闪的白鸟......"作者: credit 时间: 2002-10-15 17:13
怎有这么多感概？有机会要交流交流。聊聊。留个EMAIL吧作者: Folks 时间: 2002-10-15 21:08
In life, one needs to dream first -- inspiring courage derives from one's beautiful and splendid dreams. Once you have envisioned where you really belong, you can work on it - Thousands Miles Start From Step One (Even Stephen Covey quoted our ancient philosephy).
What is it -- that you have always wanted to do but have not done yet for various reasons?
"Work On It" doesn't translate into your dream profession and/or date overnight. It merely builds up the solid foundation where you can stand tall and high - to see further. Opportunity coupled with or without luck can be grasped by those with a vision.
Back a few years ago, I.T. profession was insanely hot -- A friend of mine strongly recommended me to do a degree in that field however my background is quite different. I hestiated...many people told me that I could be very successful with the computers since I knew the basics very well. Someone my 6th convinced me that I would hate that profession...I was right - now I am very happy with what I chose back then. On the other hand, many computer experts are out of work ( I am not here to debate which profession is better). I am just saying that one should do something he will be happy on the long term though we all did something that we hate to pay the bills.
I like BlueAngel's "down-to-earth" concept - perfection does exist in the world of artists, muscians and some writers. Back to reality, we have to deal with lots of imperfections - different elements make the colors: Foliage is splendid is becuase of the blue sky, crispy breeze and open-field...作者: Folks 时间: 2002-10-15 21:10
Correction:
4th paragraph - Somehow my 6th sense convinced me(not someone ....)作者: thanksgive 时间: 2002-10-16 00:21
看了你的贴子真有些心酸。
来这里一年了经历的也不少。虽然很自豪自己能远离父母而独立，也很喜欢这里，但是总觉得自己在休一个长长的假，一切还没有上正轨。希望自己会有所长进，一年一个样，三年大变样。
我理解你所说的一切，有时候我也有看不清前途的感觉，也很害怕过了几年还是两手空空孤身一人。但是我信命，生命是公平的，得到的同时注定会失去什么。作者: xiaparis 时间: 2002-10-16 04:51
keqi, what does this XI MO RONG sentens means here?
And for others: I feel often like orphan, do you have the same feeling?作者: lowkey 时间: 2002-10-17 22:39
Hi, hiaeamontreal
Can I borrow your book? 我现在正好有时间，也有心情， 只想读书，我觉得我失去了生活的目标和向上的动力，好像‘我看不到天地的边，不知道该往何处去’，是我真的老了，还是加拿大使人变的安于现状？好久没有读过书了，很需要补充些营养，如果可以的话，请回电话813-7720，先谢过。作者: July3 时间: 2002-10-18 09:45
I have the same feeling as yours.
"The 7 Habbits of Highly Effective People" is a nice book. Our company once gave everybody as a gift and pushed us to study.作者: seriousplayer 时间: 2002-10-18 13:00
生活没有目标
感情没有寄托
内心世界还很丰富，累！
回首往事，不知道自己都做了什么
展望未来，不清楚自己该做些什么作者: seriousplayer 时间: 2002-10-18 13:09
好男人都干什么去了？
让我们的MM如此伤感！作者: Quebecbaby 时间: 2002-10-18 15:52
哈哈, seniorplayer! 一针见血,惭愧惭愧!我长篇大论地唠叨了半天 ( 有人说了"不知你到底要说什么"),你五句话便总结了,算小女子一知音 作者: seriousplayer 时间: 2002-10-18 20:40
to QuebecBabe: Your 知音's name is seriousplayer not seniorplayer since he is not so old.
Try to forget sth sorrowful and find sth happy.
who said it: 90% of the life is sorrow. 10% is happyness.lets try do enlarge the 10% to be 20%.
I hate using English to express my dfeeling but sometimes I have to put up with it. It's just like the life.
So try to make youself happy.This world is happy because you are happy.作者: wang8 时间: 2002-10-20 09:23
why don't you just do what you like to do?
what prevent you of being cool and successful??
your current state is the mixture of what you believe and what you did, understand???
in plain english -- you are a winner because you do most of the things right in your life, and you are a loser if do most of the thing wrong. isn't it simple enough????
one beg on the street because one can't sustain hard workmanship. one live in a million dollar castle with english butler and french pussies because one earned it!作者: 小小天使 时间: 2002-10-20 11:05
华人不喜欢看心理医生,到异国他乡更加容易忧虑nervous deprssion.
人性各异:开朗外向型,可以通过交友,运动等来排解;
忧虑内向型,在无人可倾述的情况下,忧虑不断积聚,很容易生病(心理和生理上);
小小天使想这个网站,也成为许多人解忧排虑的地方,起到心理医生的某些功能.
小小天使也常常强扮笑脸解忧愁,这个网站有时是唯一耐心听讲的对象.作者: love beer 时间: 2002-10-24 13:30
想说什么就说出来把,别得自闭症啊,反正我怕!作者: dammy 时间: 2002-10-24 14:45
QUEBECBABY, 看了你的帖子.很共鸣的感觉.虽然各自的境遇不同， 但曾经的悲与喜,和心中那挥之不去的无望, 无奈,不舍,不甘, 却还是相通的吧.
SERIOUSPLAYER确实是一针见血啊.
生活没有目标
感情没有寄托
内心世界还很丰富，累！
呵呵, 好精辟啊作者: liutrip 时间: 2002-10-24 22:31
不如这样啦,出来饮杯咖啡,AA啦作者: 花火 时间: 2002-10-24 23:14
去YMCA吧，
跑累了就没力气多想了。作者: Jean1976 时间: 2002-10-25 02:58
hi hiaeamontreal:
where did you buy this book?i am in beijing now.
pls tell me.thx作者: hiaeamontreal 时间: 2002-10-25 20:52
my chinese former company gave me free of charge( english vision), i do not know where to buy. if you like , i can lend it to you to read作者: 落花流水 时间: 2002-10-26 00:18
有人说过：现在的中国人是没有信仰的，我想一旦找到了自己的信仰并坚持下去，就不会这样了吧，但这个信仰并不是大家通常所说的信仰，可能是只属于自己的，试试吧，呵呵作者: Quebecbaby 时间: 2002-10-27 20:21
Hi, SERIOUSPLAYER and the owner of the popular book ( your name is too long for me to remember,hae...)i wonder if you have received my e-mail???
花火，我经常运动的，不过好想治标不治本诶！但运动的时候我很快乐，我会坚持的！请各位放心，我不会得自闭症， 至多疯掉了作者: 感情动物 时间: 2004-1-22 20:53
Quebecbaby:
看了你一年多前的帖子，有太多的共鸣、同感，更有不尽的酸楚、伤痛！
你发帖子的那段时间，一位后来走进我内心世界的女孩来到这里，或许从此改变了我！
今天我感觉的只有失落，几近绝望的失落！
但愿新年给你们带来美好的福运！
