如果，你是其中夫(或妻)，你会怎样想？
丈夫经常粗暴大骂妻子，是不是表示他对其妻已无爱意？作者: yaco 时间: 2002-4-21 19:52
三人可用两个字来总结——有病！ 作者: Matrix 时间: 2002-4-21 21:43
That husband must have an affair with that woman or that woman is his ex-girlfriend otherwise no need to get that angry.
Anyway, most of couples lack of communication these days. wink作者: lh 时间: 2002-4-23 16:00
Hi, Matrix:
Thank you for thinking. May I ask you a question?
If you are his wife, How will you do?作者: Matrix 时间: 2002-4-23 19:14
Well, since you asked me, I would like to say that you shouldn't have behaved like that in front of your friend, that's a little impolite to her and your husband. And don't say stupid things like 你喜欢与她对眼神，找她去好了 again, it just made things worse.
After back home you can directly show him you are a little jealous of it and you can even act like a spoiled child...Whatever, just don't do stupid things or say impulsive words...
Come on you, give me a break, I am not that kind of expert because I've gotten used to being jealous of by my girls. 作者: hjl2001 时间: 2002-4-24 21:03
lh:
那个女人再不会装，也不致于跟你说话而看着你的丈夫。
疑心太重了吧。作者: Miao Ren 时间: 2002-4-25 09:29
我怀疑那女的是不是丈夫的前妻。作者: ALL 时间: 2002-4-25 10:08
笨的可以！！！！！！！！1
lh:
Hi, Matrix:
Thank you for thinking. May I ask you a question?
If you are his wife, How will you do?
What you said is based on the solid spousal relations. Of course, a husband should well treat his wife, however, from what your original story, it seems you are on the margin of the spousal relation. Suppose what your original story is true, can you rely on your conclusion that husband should better treat his wife even if he has a new girl friend or he has found someone something like his ex-lover?作者: lh 时间: 2002-4-30 17:46
To passerby113:
You have a good question. I do not know what will happy in furture. But I hope better thing is going on. The story is ture.作者: Frank9007 时间: 2002-4-30 22:40
To Ih: In my opinion, nothing wrong with the wife who deeply love her husband,on the contry, something wrong with the lady who is a butterfly. The butterflyer interested in every man who can be cheated.作者: linqr 时间: 2002-5-3 21:42
依我之见, 我好象也有过这种情况, 你知道我是什么想呢?
1.我发先对方那个女孩子还是很有魅力,起码眼睛一眨, 眉毛一动,说话的神态很美, 我喜欢看. 也许在自己妻子身上看不到,或者很久没有看到.
2.自己虽然结婚了, 也发现自己的魅力依然如故,起码这魅力不是对所有女孩子有效力, 但是对其中的一部分也许有效, 自己的心还是会砰动,血压也会升高. 其他的不说, 起码是别人对你长相或者举止的一种肯定, 心里当然开心.
3.接着, 我想, 我愿意和她交朋友, 因为我喜欢,所以有了亲近感. 至于我旁边的妻子, 当然了, 我会搂她一下, 拉她一起进入我们的话题,这样她就不会想更多想. 最后呢, 结论就是, 此女虽然有魅力加美丽, 但是我妻子还是要比她更好更实际, 我们还有爱, 别的女人好,别的女人漂亮, 也许还不适合. 所以我还是爱着我的妻子.
4.本人没有什么怪异的行为,所以偶尔多看每女几眼, 妻子就当作你饱饱眼福.
5.也常常夸奖妻子很美,很漂亮, 其实她也在怀疑她是否真的世界上最漂亮的女人. 哈, 她还怀疑, 那就有点当真了, 其实呢这个东西,才到哪呢, 好女人, 就象艺术馆里珍, 很有悬赏价值的. 不过这些话只是经常在肚子里头自己对自己讲而已.作者: lonely-single-m 时间: 2002-5-4 23:11
I think the wife is a trouble-maker. The reason for the husbanmd's over-reaction is that the husband was deeply slandered by the wife.作者: lh 时间: 2002-5-5 19:49
To lonely-single-man:
May be you are right. But I think, for any reason the husband could not be over-reaction to his wife. If he is educated. Like fresherman said:
不是他有鬼，就是他太不懂事，因为他没有去体谅他的妻子。
The feeling is real sensitive, it easy get hurt.作者: lonely-single-m 时间: 2002-5-5 21:28
To LH
Suppose that your husband has a good friend (male). When he was talking with your husband, He always looks at you. There was something in his eyes. After the leaving of your husband’s friend, your husband said that you have done something with this guy exceeding the friend limit, what should be your reaction if you do nothing with this guy? The problem is from this guy not your husband. Do you agree?作者: lh 时间: 2002-5-6 10:28
To lonely-single-man:
Yes, I agree with you."The problem is from this guy not your husband. the wife is not a trouble-maker.
If I am in this story, I never be over-reaction. I can do something to make my husband truse me, and do not rough to my husband, because
I know my husband loves me, so disagree with that guy.作者: junex 时间: 2002-5-6 12:44
lh,
丈夫在想什么以及那女人要作什么都不重要。不知你有没有想到在所有第三者和外遇的故事中，故事的开始和结局其实完全由妻子控制。
象linqr说的：‘我妻子还是要比她更好更实际, 我们还有爱’，男人是很讲实际的，但凡妻子还有一分好，还能让他心中有一分爱，一般不会有什么故事发生。（当然看两眼之类的事不算什么故事，爱美之心人皆有之，恐怕妻子也常不自觉地欣赏帅哥，不必大惊小怪）
一旦故事发生，发展和结局更完全掌握在妻子手中，全看妻子怎么做，she is the boss!作者: lonely-single-m 时间: 2002-5-6 21:15
Lh
I think Junex is quite right. You are the boss who controls the relationship between you and your husband. As I know, most of the Chinese men in overseas are very loyal to their family. On the contrary, the percentage of Chinese ladies(in overseas) who dishonored their husbands are much more than that of Chinese men’s.
I think the best way is that you need to study how to kindly treat your husband. I do not think that your husband deceived you. If the situation is just like that you described below, the conclusion is that the problem is from that lady not your husband. Frankly speaking, I think you are too sensitive and the way you treated your husband is that most Chinese husband do not like. I can understand your husband’s o ver-reaction, because he should be a person who do not like to be slandered. The burden to Chinese men in overseas is very heavy. Please treat them kindly.
I hope you can still keep good relationship between you and your husband. Next time, when something unhappy happen, just put yourself in the position of your husband’s and keep quiet and talk with him gently and frankly. DO NOT TRY TO HURT HIM INTENTIONALLY.
Good luck!作者: odds 时间: 2002-5-6 21:49
Obviously the husband hurted his wife first. Women have the sixth sense, and it is always right. The wife got hurted subconsiously and she showed her angry. The husband knew that his wife got the point so he went out of control and burst out. Then what the wife should do?
a) discuss it directly and openly with her husband
b) ignore it as nothing had happened but hurt herself day by day, and eventually hurt her husband intentionally
c) indirectly mention it, but let her husband know that she forgive him
React emotionally is a good way to communicate, but make sure it will help you to achive your goal but not the opposite.
First of all, make very sure what do you want, what is your goal. And then never forget it.作者: lh 时间: 2002-5-7 12:39
Hi, my friends:
May be you guys think I am the wife in the story. Any where thank you very much.
I love my husband very much, even I do something he likes but I do not like.作者: 鬼鬼见愁愁 时间: 2006-2-28 21:01
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