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作者: 如梦方醒 时间: 2004-5-9 06:04
标题: 关注这里很久了
这个论坛大约从两个月以前，我才开始关注，因为我生命中一个很重要的人刚刚踏上了这个很多人梦想的城市，我从来没有在这里发言，看大家的帖子倒是很多，几乎每天我都会观察这里的新动静。
只是我想问大家一个问题：是不是身在异国他乡的你们都很寂寞，寂寞和孤独是我们这些凡夫俗子无法超脱的吗？
真诚的希望听到大家的心声，因为我迷茫。。。。

作者: 如梦方醒 时间: 2004-5-9 06:11
忽然想起来，此刻异国的同胞们还没有起床，或是奔波在地铁公交上，此刻的小女子是下班空闲的时候;) ;)

作者: peterpan1668 时间: 2004-5-9 11:57
You may find difference once you learn what is the real mean of life. Click my nickname peterpan1668, then click all posted by peterpan1668, then you will discover some about here the life.

I attached summary of Mission of UCMA--加拿大华人互助联盟, then you might get some of your answers:

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[QUOTE=如梦方醒]这个论坛大约从两个月以前，我才开始关注，因为我生命中一个很重要的人刚刚踏上了这个很多人梦想的城市，我从来没有在这里发言，看大家的帖子倒是很多，几乎每天我都会观察这里的新动静。
只是我想问大家一个问题：是不是身在异国他乡的你们都很寂寞，寂寞和孤独是我们这些凡夫俗子无法超脱的吗？
真诚的希望听到大家的心声，因为我迷茫。。。。[/QUOTE]

作者: chineseman 时间: 2004-5-10 00:15
"很多人梦想的城市"?---我怎么不觉得啊...围城吧.
哪儿都一样吧,一种是寂寞的孤独,一种是喧闹的孤独---只要内心是孤独的.
有人牵挂着或被人牵挂着,就是幸福的了...
GOOD LUCK!

作者: 如梦方醒 时间: 2004-5-10 03:45
但是分开短短的两个月不到，我就在他的信箱里发现了一封我做梦都从来没梦到的邮件，他在试图认识当地的女孩子做人家男朋友，我不明白，难道人的感情真的是如此的脆弱嘛，如果不是他这次出国，我们不久就会结婚了啊，难道距离真的是无法逾越的吗？他在我心里一直是老实可靠的那种人，这也是我最欣赏他的地方，尽管他没钱，人也不是很帅，两个月的时间，所有的誓言和从前的一切都可以抛弃，我很痛苦，也很绝望，我最相信的人背叛我，我正考虑跟他分手，我没有办法把一生的幸福托付给一个两个月的考验都无法承受的男人。。。
世界上再也没有什么人让我可以相信了，尤其是男人。。

作者: 时空隧道 时间: 2004-5-10 05:29
标题: 说话先别太绝

Post by 如梦方醒

世界上再也没有什么人让我可以相信了，尤其是男人。。

嗑瓜子，花生地时候嗑着个坏地，吃饺子让小石子嗝了牙，可咋就没听你说过要和这些东东决裂尼？关注这里这么久就得出这么个结论，唉，白瞎忙活哩。。。
说不定哪天听您说一句 “这网是不能上哩，尤其是sinoquebec。。。”。

作者: 如梦方醒 时间: 2004-5-10 05:48
标题: 绝望，还是绝望！！
我所遇到的每一个男人都是这样，是我点儿背？
我不要什么大富大贵，只想安安稳稳的过日子，难道这个小小的愿望也过分吗？
:confused: :confused:

作者: 54321 时间: 2004-5-10 08:05

Post by 如梦方醒

世界上再也没有什么人让我可以相信了，尤其是男人。。

这里的人太有吸引力了.尤其是女人。。。

作者: Fred1971 时间: 2004-5-10 11:52
Relationship comes and goes. No big deal. Don't be extreme.

作者: bjhlg 时间: 2004-5-10 21:35
标题: 他是变得太快了
有的人心态在环境改变后会有极大的变化，也许找女朋友只是逃避压力的一种方式．其实，你应该有充分的思想准备．别说没结婚，就是夫妻双双相伴而来，也不一样有分道扬镳的？感情的坚贞是相对的，你发现得早是你的运气，别难过了:cool:

作者: 如梦方醒 时间: 2004-5-11 04:16
小女子远在中国真诚的感谢大家的每句安慰，我这几天也想了很多，现在心情很平静了，只是等他的电话跟他把一切说清楚，各走各的大好前程吧!
每一分感情的失去都会让人心痛，因为我曾经那么用心的经营过，呵护过，不过我想我会勇敢的走出来，面对我以后的生活，因为我的世界不光有他，还有我的父母亲人，我要为很多人活着，好好的过每一天！
如果不是他出国的话，我们一起孕育的孩子也不会失去，本来再过几个月，我们就要当爸爸妈妈了，现在这一切都在一个瞬间变成了一个大大的句号，终止在我最相信最深爱的人面前。。。
我关注这个论坛的一切，本来是让自己感觉到我们有共同的心跳，呼吸，我们的距离并不遥远，因为我知道我的他也经常光顾这里。。
这个社会到底怎么了，每一个人都失去了自己的道德底线，可以随心所欲的背叛，我其实不求他有钱有样，只是两个人依偎着过平平淡淡的生活！
我想经历过这些，我也会慢慢长大吧，祝福你们，身在异乡的朋友们！

作者: j:)j 时间: 2004-5-11 07:47
标题: 现实
男女就是不一样，您应该现实一点，想开一点

作者: stop it 时间: 2004-5-11 10:49

Post by carson

唉！爱情这玩意儿就是特chemical，合一块就起反应，分开了就互不相干。权当是一场游戏一场梦吧，总而言之言而总之：easy come, easy go！ ;)

SIGH，开始理解和同意这样的观点。

作者: 如梦方醒 时间: 2004-5-12 06:19
过眼云烟！！风过了无痕！！

作者: peterpan1668 时间: 2004-5-12 08:02
Because of the infulence by American Culture, it is more harder to discover your own prince or princess especially today. It's not just for women, it is also very difficult for men too to discover the true lover which even they already married for certian years. I supported two cases in Montreal resently happend which might let you balence your judgment:

One is the man married with a lady from Mainland China, and he spent a lot of money to brought her in Canada even brought her 5 years daughter from previous of marriage. The lady sworn how much she loves him, and she also recorded her own love sangs sent to him. The recult with this marriage is divoce since they lady just used him...

The lady arrived not long in Montreal, she started have affair with other man some time even front of him. Then she pretended her husband abused her, and I have to go to the jail and the court to release him since here the law is more protected for women. Today, the lady stolen a lot of money from her husband and she still went court to sue more money from him...

Another case is the couple married in China, 10 years late, the man applied as skill immigrant and he came and chose live in Montreal. Two years late, the man brought his wife live together in Montreal. And they rented 4 & half apartment and they rented one room from the apartment to an International student who is came from Mainland China too.

Not long, the wife started to have affair with the student who is 10 years younger than her husband. Then was none stopping fighten till both of them called police to arrest the husband since both of them declare the husband beaton them.

Today, the man lost a lot of money with his wife, and he still have face the criminal court which he also has to deal with his divoce case too. The reason why I let you know both stories, just because I want you understand there are some good, also some bad too, which is not necessary accusing menside or womenside.

As myself, two marriages I got in my life, I am very satisfied and I appreciated a lot since God didn't let me suffer for nothing (my personal story you may find: click of my nickname peterpan1668, then click all psot posted by peterpan1668 then you will know why I am saying that).

If you found your lover try to find another one besides of you, my suggestion is: first all, analyze yourself if you sent enough warming, cariing and loving to your lover? If you do, then you may find out if your lover just looking for boby satisfaction since by the fact awhile you both living in different countries with different culture especially for his loniness?

If that also is the truth, you may directly tell him for what he did is wrong which is totally hurt the relationship between your both; then you check if he willing to change, otherwise, the man you deal with presenly is not worse it for you to suffer; there are still lots of good gentlmens existed in this world that you should open your eyes widely to discover who is the real one you should rely on for you to spend time together to build up new future.

Good luck!

Post by 如梦方醒
我所遇到的每一个男人都是这样，是我点儿背？
我不要什么大富大贵，只想安安稳稳的过日子，难道这个小小的愿望也过分吗？
:confused: :confused:

作者: yunjc168 时间: 2004-5-13 23:47
It should not be a barrier whichwill prevent you hunting true love. The way of life is long, so the most important thing for you to do is have a happy life now, If it is not true, it can be true in your dream. To count the time waste in loves and things is useless, You could be a more complete woman who expericed much.I am now here in Montreal send the best wish to you---Tomorrow will be better.

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