yoda

if you are looking for a man who should love ur kid and won't care if you love him or not, it's 有
一定的难度.

Good luck !

披头四

尽管很感人，但觉得很奇怪。
可能是我的逻辑出了问题。

DNA

云雨,

I know once be a parent, everything they think of is their children.  They would like to provide them the best they have and the best they can do.

As a single mother, it doesn’t mean is the end of the world.  

Don’t rush to find a step father for your son.  As you know some people they scare they can’t find a spouse, so they just married with someone that they don’t know well and it ends up with divorce or regret.

Instead of having a step father that he may not know how to love your son and can’t benefit him, you can be a very good single mother to take care of your son. RIGHT?  I’m sure you can do it.

Firstly, you need to control your emotion.  You don’t need to feel guilty or feel bad that you can’t find a step father to your son.  It’s not your fault.

Secondly, don’t “love” your son too much so that he has the control, punish him when necessary.  You need to have some father’s attitude.  Such as: you need to be firm, insist your principle and insist what you said.  Woman usually is more emotional than man so woman is more easily to change.  You need to teach your son to be firm by setting a good example to him.

Thirdly, often let your son to have contact with uncles.  So that he can have a proper view of man and can affected by their personality and behavior.

Of course, the most important person is you.  If you get sick or if you feel upset, who can take care of your son and how can he feels happy?  So take care for yourself, pay attention to your food and have enough sleep.

whoknowsxyz

I'm not sure I'm in any better position to give any advice. But I do agree that it might be not a good idea to quickly enter into a relationship in some cases. Being a single parent can be extremely tough, physically, financially and emotionally. One may have to realise that, whether you like it or not, it invariably takes time -- even years in somes cases -- to make a good recovery from a demise of one's spouse or from separation/divorce. In the latter case, one may have to go through a series of psychological process such as denial, anger, guilt, sorrow, or loneliness, and the emotional roller-coaster can easily throw one into a depression. Again, in the same case, the true victim might well be the child as opposed to either parent. One should always remember that no one can truly replace his or her biological father or mother, and there're few parents who do not love their children... In any rate, take a break, relax, allow time to heal the wounds, and learn how to forgive and love ourselves as well as others.

云雨

Thanks for comprehension and sincere suggestion.

angel2008

雲雨！很喜歡你的名！我也是一個單親媽咪,但我對婚姻已失去信心）雖然照頤顧孩子挺不容易）但也是一直對自已說要堅強些︿anyway‧我希望你早日找到另一半！

hhocamontreal

cloudy and rain
    did you find your kid father, i do not think it is easy for you. you demand too high to a normal man, maybe super man is ok.

wtt

好多女子在为自己的孩子找父亲，不是为自己找爱人，
这样的成功率会高吗？

披头四

本末倒置,缘木求鱼!

ben shung

Your english is as very good as your heart.  Surely you will have a life you are looking forward to.

Top fatherhood can be found everything.  What your kid needs is a good parenthood: you and a good man with you.  So you must look for a good man instead of a good father.