我们这样做值得吗? 来加拿大生孩子

TracyWY · 发表于 2003-9-28 22:34

我们是在1999年12月通过移民公司开始申请。那时候我们刚结婚，事业也刚开始发展。一腔热情，向往新的世界。然后是漫长的等待，直到今年三月初，才体检。又是等待。我今年已30岁了，去年还做了子宫肌瘤提出手术。我不能再拖延要孩子了。所以我在六月初怀孕了，预产期是明年二月。
我们的签证通知在上个星期终于出来了。但我们并不兴奋。我们这几年都发展得不错，买了房子，正准备买车子。对先生来说，出去已没有很大意义了。可是这几年来，为了达成目标，我们花了不少精力和金钱，要我把努力的结果就这样放弃，实在不甘。我和先生商量，元旦的时候他送我过去，到蒙市的亲戚家待产，生完孩子后再回来。我一共有6个月假期，也够了。他只要在我省的时候过来陪月子就行了。
可我们这样做值不值得呢？我总说即使大人放弃了，小孩也还有选择的权利。他将来是不是会有选择作家国公民的权利呢？我一个人在加生孩子，辛苦不用说，烦劳亲戚不说，经济上还要付出不少：机票费，产前检查费用和其他政府不负担的费用（我不可能在生之前拿到SIN卡）。更重要的事，孩子带回国要办寄养证。如果以后先生真的放弃定居的权利，每年还要为孩子的证件操心。。。我们这样做值得吗？希望各位大侠指教。不甚感谢。

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冬 · 发表于 2003-9-28 23:06

如你是元旦来，已经不可以上飞机了

qq369 · 发表于 2003-9-28 23:55

不值.还是别来了.

liyonghe · 发表于 2003-9-29 00:00

如果只是为了孩子的加拿大护照的话,确实不太值得.

xuxf · 发表于 2003-9-29 20:51

没有必要冒这么大的风险到CANADA 来生孩子。
世界变化的这么快，待你的孩子长大后，他(她)也许可以自由的去任何他(她)想去的国家。
另外，如果国内有满意的工作，在没有找到在CANADA的新工作前，轻易不要放弃国内的工作。
仅供参考

FSV18 · 发表于 2003-10-1 17:55

这个问题非常复杂。其实我觉得你首先要回答你们自己是否放弃移民资格，如果你们放弃，我觉得小孩有加拿大国籍也没有多大意义，因为他以后也不太会在这里上学，也不享受这里的福利，反倒多了很多麻烦。如果你们自己不放弃，那小孩接受这里的教育还是不错的，而且如果你打算生一个以上的小孩，在加拿大比较好。

TracyWY · 发表于 2003-10-2 21:34

太谢谢各位的高见了。我们还在犹豫中，希望能尽快决定下来。鱼与熊掌，不能兼得的，我也知道。。。

rliang · 发表于 2003-10-3 09:20

I have a daughter named TRACEY.  I like the name very much.

My husband and I moved to Canada three years ago, giving up all we had in China, good salaries and house, leaving our beloved parents and friends.  It's really an important decision and a changing spot in our life.  No one forced us, we chose this way, though sometimes I question myself if it's worth.

I guess I would have been regret if I hadn't come to Canada.  We are still young, we can start from the beginning if this is not what we want.  We don't live a luxury life as we did in China, but we learn to adjust ourselves so as to love this place.  The longer time we live here, the more we like.  But I wouldn't say I would never go back to China (for long term purpose).

Because of totally different life style in two countries, we decided to have a child in our family after we settled in.  We discussed a lot on naming the child and the way we should bring up the child.  Luckly, we went through everything smoothly.  My emotional period is gone, now I enjoy very much the accompany of my daughter.  I should say it is easy for me because my husband and I find the way to sooth problem together.  It's important to every wife and young mother, therefore I am happy we chose to settle in Canada.  While in China, we were too busy with business and work, almost no time for family.  Personally, I wouldn't choose to stay alone far from close family members.  I had experienced the loneliness while I studied in another country.  Let alone matters concerning child birth and child care.

My daughter is almost two years old now.  She is a healthy and happy girl, smart and outgoing.  She stays in a friendly warm homecare and enjoys playing with other kids.  All our friends and relatives love her a lot, but we never let her live in an overwhelming love environment.  It's the way a child should learn to respect others' needs.

My point is we should choose the best and happiest life so that we won't regret our choice when we get older and older.

springcity2002 · 发表于 2003-10-3 10:35

放弃国内的一切来到这里,然后发现不如意,你会更加的
不甘心.

ouinon · 发表于 2003-10-3 10:51

值得!