forrestgump

no more

alittlefog

Do you think it is the responsibility to your wife? Do you really love your wife after experienced this? No, actually you still don't feel love to your wife, and this feeling will bring you more unexpected love in the future.

"现在我很小心的避开桃花美人，因为我知道自己的定力太差"

You just avoid to have another love. You are not responsible to your wife. You don't love her, but for the kid, for your parents and her parents, for your face, you live together with your wife, not live as a husband with your wife. Do you think she appreciates for it? you haven't solve the problem.

How about the girl you loved before? Do you think you really love her? How did you explain to her? Do you think it is responsible for her? You give a hurt and changed another heart.

hurt

to 静夜之星:
   你没有痛苦的经历，所以对婚姻看到的与别人不一样，认为责任比不上感情重要，可是我告诉你，一时错可能带来灾难性后果。
   我才离开加三个月，我老婆到加也就几个月，老婆就上了别人的床。得知此事我愤怒得要采取极端行为，最终因为顾及到孩子无父无母，没有下手。
   没有自制的女人，在没有约束的环境，比男人更放纵。

forrestgump

“alittlefog”你好，人生不是“alittlefog”而是“hugefog”,如果你只是觉的“alittlefog”，那你以经在很高很高。
由于家庭的原因，那时的我以对人生，家庭没有兴趣，不是想离家，就是想死。直到有一天，我遇到了她（不是在廊桥），是帮她修电脑（如果没有结婚，快学点修电脑的本领，如果结婚了，快忘了）。我们谈得很愉快。从那以后，每隔3-4天，我一下班后，我们一起去吃饭，逛商店（未婚男士必修课），看夜景。。。然后送她回家，我呢，在回到实在不想回的家。
直到有一天，我太太和我吵架，她说“我就在门口站一夜，我冻死了，看你一背子良心这么办？”。我才明白男人：
女人要打男人，男人赶快找扫把（被打了，没有后贻症）！
女人要骂男人，男人赶快洗衣服（一定要是牛崽服之类）！
女人要不说话了，男人赶快煲海带冬瓜汤之类（清热降火）！
其实爱情就向流星那样，绚丽而有短暂，
亲情就向恒星那样永恒。
其实我不懂爱情，我记得我在上大学时，不小心砸断了我的脚（三根骨头，粉碎性），我的初恋的女朋友（我是一直这样认为，虽然我们连手都没有握过），没有来看我，我竟然骑着自行车（车上绑着我的拐杖，只用一只脚用力），骑了3公里，看了她一眼，喝了一杯她为我泡的香茶（看着自己喜欢的人），让我天天骑来，我都无怨无悔，后来她不来看我，也不让我去看她。又后来，过了好多年，我们又见面了，她告诉我，我不让你来，是不想让别人误会：一个姑娘家，老是有个倔头断脚毛头小伙上门，成何体统！啊！那时为何没有“手机”。。。

forrestgump

谢谢“牛头山小商河”，对于你所提到的境界，我是非常赞同你的观点。
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踏踏实实做自己该做的事，没有非分之想，平平淡淡的做普通人，享受一种平淡从容的天伦之乐。无论你多么伟大，都保持着这种普通人的心态。我觉得这才是人生的意义。如果你保持这种心态，我相信，行善自然会变成你的本性的。你同意否？
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你的这些话，的确让我受用非浅，从你给我所提的建议，让我感到你心态和品格的高尚。希望你能不断给大家带来
“牛头山小商河”牌清凉之风。

alittlefog

Actually, he already didn't know what was responsibility from the beginning.

alittlefog

yes, he always has his excuse for what ever he did. He said it was responsibility if he choose his wife, it was love if he chose his lover.

bp

婚外恋之于男人，其结果就是用负责任来掩饰不负责任。

alittlefog

I just want to ask forrestgump: what you want to show here? you just want get peace for youself, you just want others confirm that you are right. You think about yourself from the beginning, never think about others. You are looking for excuse from the beginning until now. Actually you don't know yourself very well, you don't know love, you don't know what you did.

lindou2

romio这里你说的有点像人话，我同意长得象暴龙的观点。爱情转变为亲情时其实就是对感情的负任了。