找女友

是吗？ 我可是既有时间又有钱，就是没有女友，那是怎么回事。是我太丑？好象也过得去，纳闷。

chips

MontrealGuy , you know why i asked you about job rather than the pretties 1st?.....I know that I need a good job; although, the pretties are more attractive than  job hunting.....

找女友 , you may have spent your money and time in wrong way.

angel_f

To montrealguy:高手!=D>I think a lot of woman want to be an Angel(o:-)),(of course me eighter .:-p )don't you think so?

danyan

to all you guys,

what are you all talking about, handsome, pretty, money, job?

2 months is simply nothing to find Mr. right.  It already took me more than 3 years, and I simply wish only to find a man being nice to everyone by heart and being mentally strong.  What a basic requirement! but i could not find him by now, even though i am very much confident about my nice looking, and always have a few guys following me.  

I am not demanding, but simply not very lucky.

找女友

这里的女士满多的吗，我怎么在大街上看不到呢？

tianshiaku

oh I suggest all handsomes and prettys meet together on a party, then all problems will be solved. Do you all have the intereste?
contact me on tianshi_aku@163.com

chips

daphney, MontrealGuy  , I have been in montreal for 10 years and still single. Surely, I am not successful, but I may able to tell 找女友 what he should avoid to do. Daphney 3 years is not long , if you are ileadism.

daphney: "a man being nice to everyone by heart and being mentally strong."
For my experience, the REAL nice guys don't like to frequently   show off thier nice personalities explicitly. However, the worst guys instinctively have best presentations in front of girls. Thats why REAL nice heart guys rarely meet nice girls. Most of time, the real nice guys are KO by worst guys' presentations in 1st round. And girls even won't notice the real nice guys' existence.


daphney: "what are you all talking about, handsome, pretty, money, job?"
daphney: "but i could not find him by now, even though i am very much confident about my nice looking, and always have a few guys following me."
Daphney, do you know why you feel "very much confident" ? What will you do if you are not pretty, but you still looking for the same level of guy. You may not able to understand the feeling of ugly if you are pretty. ...human will learn to compensate thier weakness from unsuccessful experience.....I just take appearance as an example, it also applicable to other weakness...

neko

Daphney, I can sympathize with you.  I've been looking for Mr. Right (or even Mr. OK) for a long time.
咱们交交朋友吧。我觉得女的朋友也很重要。我多数同性的朋友都太忙于丈夫，男朋友，孩子等。

Chips, the reason women may not pay attention to "nice guys" is because sometimes those guys try too hard and therefore seem desperate or lacking in confidence. In general, women like men who seem confident and comfortable with themselves, not really ones whose actions say, "I'll do ANYTHING for you as long as you pay attention to me！"

这是我西方人的看法。不知中国人的有没有不同。。。

chips

Hi neko ,
neko: " ..."nice guys" is because sometimes those guys try too hard and therefore seem desperate..."
Maybe my writing was not clear enough. I didn't mean that  desperate and "try too hard" are nice guys. My main point is "presentation". Worst guys effortlessly present whatever girls like perfectly.

Think about what daphney said, "a man being nice to everyone by heart and being mentally strong."
In reality, everyone has weakness. A person who is honestly acting by his/her heart won't present perfectly. However, the imperfections of honest guys will lost points.

Also, I didn't mean that all nice guys look imperfect, and  all worst guys look perfect. I am just telling you.... understanding a person is not easy. You may have to spend years to notice a person's moral problems; especially, you are in love with this person....You may never notice how nice a person is , if he/she won't able to attract you because of his/her imperfections.

neko:"I'll do ANYTHING for you as long as you pay attention to me！"
Base on your expression, I feel that you appreciate "do ANYTHING for you No Matter you pay attention to me or not"...please correct me if i misunderstand....lets continue the discussion....it is not an arguement  ok?

chips

one more thing neko
"Daphney, I can sympathize with you. I've been looking for Mr. Right (or even Mr. OK) for a long time.
咱们交交朋友吧。我觉得女的朋友也很重要。我多数同性的朋友都太忙于丈夫，男朋友，孩子等。"

Why you forgot angelxxxx and her friend?