whoknowsxyz

Be self-confident and optimistic, and I'm sure you'll find that special someone sooner or later. But you have to love and take care of yourself first.....

云雨

Thanks again "whoknowsxyz"
I am optimistic but lack of some self-confidence.

Sprewell

良心发现，出来道歉！
向云雨女士和所有观众道歉，我错了。我收回我的话。

sinonet

这是一个非常温馨及令人动容的主题，大家为云雨加油，早日有位好伴侣。
LatrellSprewell也很欣赏你再次站出来的二度帖。
GOOD LUCK TO ALL!

hhocauestc

cloudy and rain
     i am not sure whether you need a man or your kid need a father, in fact, i think you do need a man to love you. but , being a chinese lady, you are shy, therefore, you pretend to find a father for your kid. i am sure you want a man to share you high pressure, look after your kid, the most crucial issue is to love you. everyone needs love besides you. therefore, claim directly, i need a husband. this is more naturally, do not you think so?

lhcc

同意hhocauestc的看法。云雨，你的孩子不仅需要一个父亲，你更需要一个当你白发满缤的时候，仍能和你一起牵手去看夕阳的人。真心的祝福你！

云雨

Frankly, as a mother, I think that my kid's physically health and spiritually health are most important for me now.  I am not so sure if I can love a man in the future.  But now, I care more about my kid.

A few days ago, I received an e-mail, I copy it as follows:

"i very sympathize with your situation which is too difficult for a
woman. i had marriaged four years ago, i like children very much but my
wife could not give me. for this reason our emotion has got to flag. i
don't want to leave her because it isn't her mistake. but my parent has
just a son. i feel sorry to them.
sorry i talk too much.
i has never imaged that we could become any  relation, i just want to
give u a suggestion, u need a man must be beginning from a friend."

I refused to meet this person and suggested him to adopt a child to create a new family atmosphere.

In the previous post, I said that I am lack of self-confidence;  however, I have confidence in supporting my kid.  I have no confidence in dealing with the relationship between my kid and my future husband, that is why I'd like to look for a person who has a child, too.  If that, we can understand each other.

Thanks for all kind-hearted people.  I am an optimistic woman, don't worry about me.  If I don't meet a good chance,  I will teach my kid how to face his future world without Father.  Fortunately, he has so many kind uncles and aunts.

Thanks again my closed friends.  They gave me this suggestion to let me receive more kind reply.  They all care about my lucky future.

Good luck to everyone, especially to the mothers.

whoknowsxyz

Dear Yunyu, sorry for my being straightforward: no one can do anything to help you if you're not sure you can love a man in the future (to use your words), and it's perfectly fine if you don't want to look for a companion for yourself. It's your life and you have the perfect right and freedom to choose what you want to do. However, I would never publish such a personal e-mail if I had any curtesy, tolerance and understanding for others at all...

whoknowsxyz

"curtesy" should read as "courtesy". My apology for the typo.

云雨

In fact, I received many personal letters, some of them are much more impolite.
I am not a perfect person.