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The learning curves for men and women
As you can see, it takes men much longer to dance
at the same level as that of women.
The most difficult part for men is leading.
Leaders, at a minimum, have to…
- Learn enough moves to keep her interested.
- Make sure she is comfortable, and well taken care of.
- Maintain self balance and control.
- Not be too light, nor too heavy.
- Understand frame and body momentum
- Keep his arms and feet out of her way.
- Stay on beat.
- Make sure his lead is not too light, nor too rough.
- Ask her to dance, and risk the humiliation of a “No”, or lame excuse.
- Allow her the time and space to turn and execute her moves.
- Make sure just the right amount of hand-pressure is applied on her body.
- Protect her from bumping into other dancers.
- Remember turn patterns and figures.
- Adjust to timing changes in the music.
- Keep her from falling if she is off-balance.
- Keep the moves fluid, and working together.
- Show her off. Make her look good.
- Play traffic cop on the dance floor
- Make sure she doesn’t run into anyone, nor let anyone run into her.
Getting Good” is a function of time and money invested. The X-axes represents time, and the Y-axes represents dance level. The higher the level, the better the dancer. As you can see, the woman will progress at an even pace. This does not mean that she is better, more athletic, nor more intelligent (sorry ladies), but men have a bigger responsibility, and a lot more to learn in the beginning. We call this “Beginner’s Hell” for the guys. Most males will quit at this point. They give up just days before the whole thing “clicks”. If they had stuck it out just a few more days, they would have started “getting good” very quickly.
Many men quit during Beginner’s Hell because they get frustrated that the women they started classes with no longer want to dance with them, or feel as though they are now getting “mercy dances” with them. This is not a good feeling.
For the guy who persists, and keeps on keeping on, suddenly his level will get better at an exponential rate – without his realizing it. This is a phenomenon that I cannot explain, but I’ve seen it happen time and time again.
All it takes is lessons, patience, lots of practice. |
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