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作者: white rabbit 时间: 2005-12-27 13:15
标题: 华人有几项陋习,您知道吗?(ZT)
大家都知道许多外国人看不起中国人，他们甚至对老黑或印度人都比对中国人好。为什么呢？中国人能移民到加拿大来的非富贵则有才，不是投资就是技术移民，但为什么外国人对中国人另眼相看呢？我经常探讨性地和我的外国朋友们聊天，一般地人家不愿说这些，怕不小心弄出个种族歧视罪来。但一来二往，我还是发现了几点值得一提的事情。

1．几乎所有外国人都比较排斥中国人吃饭端起碗或盘子的习惯。一老外朋友是个非常喜欢中国文化的人，曾经两次自费去中国旅游。他提到有一次在香港被邀请到一个非常豪华的中餐馆。他觉得饭店装修得象四星级宾馆一样，每个就餐的客人都是盛装出席。但是让他惊讶的是几乎每个客人都会时不时端起自己的碗，这种习惯是不能让西方人接受的。西方人从小受的教育是在未吃完饭之前，不能用手端起自己的盘子或碗，唯一可以接触盘子的工具是刀、叉、匙。由此看来，无论是大陆人还是香港、台湾人，因为我们都喜欢喝汤、吃米饭，而汤匙是用瓷做的。当汤或米饭快到底时，那厚厚的瓷汤匙自然弄不上来，必须把碗倾斜一点才能享受那美味佳肴。我们从来没想到这在西方人看来简直是粗鲁的习惯。

2．就餐时，如果有任何东西你不想吃或不能吃，肥肉、骨头等等，不可以就这样吐出来，一定要用餐巾纸捂着嘴，吐在餐巾里，再卷起来不让人看到。我曾试过和老外吃早茶，点了一个凤爪，我吃一口吐一口骨头，一会儿就得向服务员要一叠餐巾纸，下次再也不敢要这种有骨头的东西了。坐在餐桌前，不可以把胳膊肘或手放在桌子上，他们有句话说“Anything on the table are for cutting”, 就是说放在桌上的东西都是切来吃的。

2．就餐完毕，许多国人喜欢用牙签剔牙。虽然大家都喜欢用一只手半遮半挡，认为这样就不伤大雅了，可在老外看来仍不可思议。西方人认为在同桌就餐的人还未吃完时，万万不可以做任何这种倒胃口的举动。既使大家都吃饱喝足，闲聊话常，也很少有人在大庭广众面前剔牙。不用说剔牙，就连女士补妆重新画口红，也要到洗手间秘密进行，不可以在众目睽睽之下掏出镜子补妆。

3．排队等候时，西方人不喜欢彼此站得很近，最少要有一脚半的距离。朋友们说尤其是在超市排队付钱或在银行排队等候时，经常会有中国人站得离自己很近，肩膀挨着肩膀，可以听得到呼吸。西方人认为这样很不礼貌，估计这可能是隐私权所衍生的副产品。

4．已经有很多国人注意到在公共场合大声喧哗这一点了。一般来说，在大街上，在Mall里，如果看到远处有朋友，老外很少选择大声叫着名字奔过去，他们只会安静地跑过去跟朋友打招呼。我不大赞同这一点，中国有句俗话说“有朋自远方来，不亦乐乎”，偶遇自己的朋友，更应该会很兴奋。如果等你走过去，他们已不见踪影，岂不是很懊悔？中国人说话嗓门大还体现在讲电话上，即使面对面讲话有时嗓门也很大。记得有一次跟外国朋友去中餐馆吃饭，就听到厨房哇哇讲话。老外一脸狐疑地问我，“他们在吵架吗？”其实他们只是在聊天。还有不止一次的当我与朋友通电话时，我的许多朋友是北方人，说话嗓门大，老外听到了都以为我们在吵架

5．几乎我所有的老外朋友们都提到了中国人开车。中国人开车不是特快就是特慢。开得快的遇见黄灯都闯过去，看见Stop Sign也不完全停下来，看见其它车从小道等着切入大道，很少有中国人会停下来让别的车过去。开得慢的在快车线上开着慢速，妨碍别人快速前进。还有些人不管什么交通规则，在不让U－turn 的地方掉头，在十字路口掉头，都是很危险容易造成交通事故的。

6．还有一些情况会发生在个别国人的身上，即个人卫生。最厉害的是口腔卫生。本人晚上睡前刷牙，早上起床后再刷，有一次还是被要好的朋友指出口腔有味道。我们公司有几个中国人，时不时也会闻到他们的嘴里有味。有一次去太古广场，店里的小姐打扮得非常时髦，一张嘴就把我薰跑了。这个问题最难解决的是自己往往闻不到，在我们自我感觉良好的时候，可能一张嘴就玩完。我现在甚至有点神经过敏，一时不停地嚼着口香糖，在办公室也备了牙刷和漱口水。又听说酸奶可以去味，现在我又在办公室准备了酸奶，生怕一不小心遗臭办公室。

一些中国男性，头发总让人感觉不干净，不是有头皮屑就是感觉油不啦几的，有的不打者里膏。我这也是第一次听说不打者里也犯“法”？老外说如果不打者里就感觉这人很懒。

说了这些，我要声明本人绝对爱国爱人民，以身为中国人为傲。我的外国朋友也都对中国人很尊重，有的还有中国女朋友。我只是想把这些事情提出来让大家了解一下一般外国人眼里的中国人是这样的。既然来到外国，我们也得多少尊重一下人家的习俗，只有尊重别人才会被尊重。

作者: xuqi20000 时间: 2005-12-27 22:30
标题: 并不是每个华人都跟你一样连吃饭都没学会

Post by white rabbit
1．几乎所有外国人都比较排斥中国人吃饭端起碗或盘子的习惯。

当你絮絮叨叨地向别人说教1+1=2时,说明你最多也就是个知道1+2=3的水平,除了跟老外学拿刀叉以外,其他的你什么都不知道.

作者: white rabbit 时间: 2005-12-27 22:50
实话告诉你,我的水平是很差,文中有些我也不是很清楚, 曾经也做的不好.

我转贴这篇文章,只不过让刚来的朋友了解加拿大的习俗.我们自己注意一些,了解什么行为是有礼貌的,哪些是不够礼貌的, 对我们大家都有所帮助.

Post by xuqi20000
当你絮絮叨叨地向别人说教1+1=2时,说明你最多也就是个知道1+2=3的水平,除了跟老外学拿刀叉以外,其他的你什么都不知道.

作者: xuqi20000 时间: 2005-12-27 22:58
标题: 这只是你的习俗

Post by white rabbit
实话告诉你,我的水平是很差,文中有些我也不是很清楚, 曾经也做的不好.
我转贴这篇文章,只不过让刚来的朋友了解加拿大的习俗.我们自己注意一些,了解什么行为是有礼貌的,哪些是不够礼貌的, 对我们大家都有所帮助.

加拿大的习俗?你定的?除了吃没有别的?口气太大了点吧?

作者: xuqi20000 时间: 2005-12-27 23:18
标题: 那要分是什么场合

Post by white rabbit
唯一可以接触盘子的工具是刀、叉、匙。

有老外跟我学用筷子怎么说,有穆斯林直接用手抓饭又怎么说,虽然是在加拿大,但西人出席穆斯林宴会都要自动自觉地尊重穆斯林习惯,中国人怎么就不能保留自己的民族习惯,有些是陋习,有一些不是,全盘地模仿,恨不得剥了自己的皮换上一副奴才的骨头,西人就尊重你了吗,有礼貌要从素质做起,而不是学些皮毛,你这是提醒吗,其实只是一种误导,想告诉人们中国人是多么的贱,而只有你才是高贵的,如此而已.

作者: shanghai 时间: 2005-12-28 02:10
老子天生就这样！只要我自己觉得舒服就可以了，又能把我怎么样？:eek!:

作者: xuqi20000 时间: 2005-12-28 23:07
标题: 善意的劝告与恶意的中伤还是能分出来的
当你把别人想象成弱智时，你应当先审视一下自己的智商水平，特别当你认为自己有别于其他中国人时，你应当意识到你那副刚奴才骨子究竟值几个臭子。

作者: jamais 时间: 2006-9-9 10:26
看了同学们的回帖，发现现在像LZ这种在外国人面前喜欢无故装孙子、在同胞中喜欢没事找抽的家伙已经越来越少了，令人高兴。

作者: 圆明园 时间: 2006-9-9 22:50
标题: From cells to bells, 10 things the Chinese do far better than we do
[size=-1]JAN WONG -
            Saturday, October 23, 2004


BEIJING -- Ah, those clever Chinese. First they invent gunpowder and a few other essentials of modern civilization. Now they're gunning their economic engines. Yet who would have thought that, after a millennium of poverty, they'd already do so many things better than we?

  In fact, compiling a Top 10 list of what China does better than Canada isn't easy. There are so many items. To whittle it down, let's assume it's unfair to count anything related to cheap labour.

  So we won't include the wonderfully thorough mop-ups of supermarket spills: The staff don't plunk down those yellow you-can't-sue-us caution signs. They actually fan the floor with a broken sheet of Styrofoam until it is dry.

  Nor will we mention the exquisite, free head-and-shoulder massages that come with every shampoo and haircut.

  And we will only sigh with envy over bicycle couriers speeding theatre tickets to you the same day -- free.

  Frequent travellers will love this one: Even remote rural hotels in China, not previously known for world-beating hygiene, now routinely slip blankets, quilts and coverlets into freshly laundered duvet covers. No more puffy bedspreads and nasty polyester blankets that cover guest after guest without being cleaned, which is still the practice in most of our hotel chains.

  Considering how cheap labour is, it's astonishing that so many Chinese facilities offer free automated lockers now, the way European airports and train stations do. No more old-fashioned keys to form a lump in your pocket -- just a slip of paper with a randomly chosen number that lets you retrieve your belongings. Stores like them because they cut shoplifting; customers like them because they reduce schlepping.

  Not all progress is good. Taxis, subways, trains and elevators barrage you with non-stop ads on flat-screen videos. Some city buses feature live television. Who wants that? Pickpockets, probably.

  For this list, we won't count minor things, either, like the narrow plastic bags that department stores and offices offer on rainy days to sheathe your dripping umbrella. Or the invention of the electronic fly swatter, which electrocutes without squishy messes (and is now available in dollar stores in Canada).

  On this list, we won't count mega things, either, like the soaring architectural wonder of China's airports -- even in provincial capitals like Fuzhou -- awash in natural light. (Not to mention that you can understand the public announcements, and the restaurants are much better.)

  We won't include the vast subway and highway systems and huge underground garages that Beijing, Shanghai and Canton have built in astoundingly little time. Or Shanghai's magnetic-levitation train, the first in the world, which accelerates to 431 kilometres an hour in 2 minutes and 53 seconds. Even the Germans who designed it can't afford one for themselves.

  No, for this list we were looking for truly brilliant ideas, the forehead-slapping kind, the ones that make you say: Now why didn't we think of that?

  1. Cellphones

  By any standard you can think of -- coverage, price, ubiquity -- China's cellphone practices beat ours. You can use them in elevators, subways and parking garages. They work in Tibet, at the Great Wall, in remotest rural China, which is more than you can say for Ontario cottage country. Patients, doctors, nurses and visitors use them in hospitals, too, with no apparent ill effects.

  It's a cheap, pay-as-you-go system, with no stupid monthly contracts or credit checks. The phones are so cheap -- even sidewalk cabbage vendors have them -- that China is now the biggest cellphone market in the world. With 300 million in use, each one telling time, wristwatch sales have plummeted.

  "We're a nation of thumbs," a young Shanghai woman told me, meaning that Chinese use cellphones like BlackBerries, text-messaging friends 24/7, at 1.6 cents a pop. The Chinese never got used to voicemail or answering machines; installing home phones was equivalent to two years pay in the 1980s, so the country leapfrogged over landline technology right into cellular.

  Chinese author Qian Fuchang even plans to transmit a novel -- about an extramarital affair -- via text-messaging, one 70-word chapter at a time.

  2. Informative stop lights

  In Tianjin, a city of 13 million people, traffic lights display red or green signals in a rectangle that rhythmically shrinks down as the time remaining evaporates. In Beijing, some traffic lights offer a countdown clock for both green and red signals.

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作者: alexpeng 时间: 2006-9-9 23:03
标题: 随想
来到加拿大，你不入乡随俗？人家很善意的说出一些问题，就会出现像shanghai，xiuqi这种反面论调。象这些爷们最好还是回国保持传统。从你们的言语就知你们不适应这里，还是回去吧。我想你们不会坚持用汉语跟老外买东西吧？

作者: 发点牢骚 时间: 2006-9-9 23:50
我的当地同事（All Engineers)吃饭时都把胳膊放桌上。

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