MiniVan

I thought it would be a good start for my family when I found a job in USA, However, my wife don't want to came with me to USA, so that I have been in USA here alone. even I told my wife I can find a job in USA for her, she still wanted to be in MOntreal. I really don't know what she wants and what should I do to bring her to USA. I strongly believe that it is important for a family to be together. what should I do about this situation? please give me some suggestions! :confused:  
Thanks.

zedrezej

in montreal? is it because she feels easier to earn money in montreal than in us? Do u have kids now?

i am sorry but i have to alert you that don't exclude the possiblity that she has a lover in montreal. it makes no sense that a woman doesn't want to stay with her husband...

nowdays women are not as faithful to their husband as they used to be, since they have become financially indepent of men and are influnenced by western life style. so u need to adjust urself to the new environment and develop new methods to take ur wife in control...

BIO

at first,you have to completely understanding her mind & find out the reason why she ignore to move to the US,she prefer stay in Montreal must be something she worry about the new life there. by the way did she reject your discision even you go alone?i believe there are some hiding problems in your story you guys may know the detail.In any situations, i strongly suggest you to stay /w her or bring her go together,she needs you in her life.

Meng

Evidently, she doesn't love you.  Nothing else possible.

markelei00

Something is very straight forward!!! You have to think about => your wife doesn't love you at all .... so simply be honest with youself ...
  
  above is based on facts below:
  
  - both of you couldn't find job in Montreal
  - you have to support family as a man
  - you have got a job in the States
  - your wife doesn't have a job yet, when you leave...
  - however, your wife doesn't even try to think about going with you ...
  
  Conclusion is Your wife is a bit more than waiting to see your away... She has somebody who will support her or to say stay with her after you leave...
  
  buddy....you have to face the truth or we say FACTS... If you can find a job in there ... pls just go ... for your own life ...
  

Post by MiniVan
I thought it would be a good start for my family when I found a job in USA, However, my wife don't want to came with me to USA, so that I have been in USA here alone. even I told my wife I can find a job in USA for her, she still wanted to be in MOntreal. I really don't know what she wants and what should I do to bring her to USA. I strongly believe that it is important for a family to be together. what should I do about this situation? please give me some suggestions! :confused:  
  Thanks.

BIO

Hey watch out! We are in this post is trying to help MiniVan to find out the problem.NOT BREAK UP HIS FAMILY! pay attenion & responsibility in your conversation!



To MiniVan:

Women is not the same as men,thier acts always following by feelings,emotions.Even sometimes they say YES,but they hope the answer is NO.They say NO,the answer may YES. Women will not directly tell you what they want.They like give hints or become angry to let you know something wrongs there. think about it! You must to believe you wife.

BIO

Hey watch out! We are in this post is trying to help MiniVan to find out the problem.NOT BREAK UP HIS FAMILY! pay attenion & responsibility in your conversation!



To MiniVan:

Women is not the same as men,thier acts are always following by feelings,emotions.Even sometimes they say YES,but they hope the answer is NO.They say NO,the answer may YES. Women will not directly tell you thier mind.They like give hints or become angry to let you know something are wrong there. think about it! You must to believe your wife.

MiniVan

Thank you for your understanding and suggestion! BIO

markelei00

BIO, you are living in dream... what you tried to express was just like what from a man or woman just fell in love ... in this case, for a long years couple, when a husband asked his wife for a critical decision regarding their life and future...so funny thing was BIO thought his wife was like playing a game in answering such critical decision in a anti-directional way???!!!
   
    you are crazy. They are not lovers in high school, the girl replied no...while a boy was asking if she wanted to stay overnight with him... no... they are long years couple, got married in China and made critical decision to move to Canada and for now there is another critical decision to make ... to live ...
   
You mentioned "believe" ... or we can say "trust"... Actually few people can find trust with their spouses... in case they live separately for a long time ...
   
A big question mark for minivan was they might have ignored each other or got hidden conflicts for quite a long time... and American job issue was nothing but a fuze to breakout or to be straigyforward => minivan will be dumped for sure ... seems minivan loves his wife tough, however his wife doesn't have the same feeling...so sad...
   
minivan, pls think, you have to make decision by yourself now... to work in the States to enjoy your own life and lose your wife in the near future for sure... OR .... for LOVE... you gonna stay in Montreal... to fight.. ? fight for love ... for living and respect from your wife...
   

Post by BIO
Hey watch out! We are in this post is trying to help MiniVan to find out the problem.NOT BREAK UP HIS FAMILY! pay attenion & responsibility in your conversation!
     
     
     
    To MiniVan:
     
Women is not the same as men,thier acts are always following by feelings,emotions.Even sometimes they say YES,but they hope the answer is NO.They say NO,the answer may YES. Women will not directly tell you thier mind.They like give hints or become angry to let you know something are wrong there. think about it! You must to believe your wife.

wzy123

Apparently, the wife has made her own decision. The best choice for the husband to face the truth. Don't cheat on yourself. You cannot get her back even if you give up your job. Be a man to accept the life without her. Make yourself happier.