irisq

(怎么没有专门宝宝的主题啊，帖子从'休闲生活'搬过来的,好象这里DAYCARE的话题比较多.)
* d1 E2 c8 \( E9 `: L3 m+ `你们从几个月送宝宝去呀，我宝宝快满8个月了，好不容易排上一个挺好的公立的daycare,上周看儿科医生的时候她却说宝宝1岁以下不送,要不就老病. 因为都是跟lg自己带的孩子，太忙了，可是如果真的不好，就是再累也要自己带啊。再说,宝宝经常吃得不好,到daycare会不会更不好了, 而且脾气还不小,所以很担心; 另一面呢，送了宝宝自己才会有些时间，总自己天天跟宝宝呆着，有时也会烦,没有人替换啊，而且小宝宝到了daycare是不是老师会针对小宝宝情况进行些教育是我们顾及不到的，从这个角度好象送宝宝去daycare又是挺好的,你们说呢，送还是不送... 挺矛盾的.
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saring

如果您觉的自己的事情比较重要，那就送好了，病是少不了的，而且照顾肯定不如自己，即使送到Daycare去了，肯定自己的事情也做不好，老是挂念担心的。我个人建议是不送，自己也用宝宝，实在不忍心，送的这麽早只是让宝宝受罪。对于我来讲，没有什么比宝宝更重要。相信您也是的。

irisq

谢谢2位,谢谢又给了我些送或者不送的理由，明天去DACARE看看，现在还是送,不送还是一半一半,

+ I& P7 B4 U8 zto Saring, 你觉得送宝宝到DAYCARE是受罪吗? 你不觉得宝宝在家一个人玩很孤单?过过集体生活好象也没有什么不好的,你说呢?
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6 K% p  S+ O$ I9 v+ fTO kevin1105, "那个幼儿园管理好不好,老师素质"真不好看出,明天看看;请问问,你怎样过度让宝宝一个人呆DARECARE,陪了他多少天啊?我朋友也说送了后宝宝学会很多东西.不知道他们怎么收费的，一次交一个月吗?要签合同的吧.

JJBOSS

kevin1105：
请问你的孩子上的daycare是在什么地方，有电话吗，谢谢

saring

亲爱的，您可能没看明白我说的意思，送的早宝宝是受罪的，太早送宝宝还不知道怎么玩，怎么算过集体生活？有些妈妈出了满月就送了，难道她们不心疼宝宝吗？肯定不是的，只要她们有办法肯定不会这麽早送的，不过即使这麽早送了，也不见得一定有问题哦～。我们宝宝18M去的幼儿园，我觉的还是有些早，2T比较合适～（个人意见哦～～～～）
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Post by irisq
谢谢2位,谢谢又给了我些送或者不送的理由，明天去DACARE看看，现在还是送,不送还是一半一半,

to Saring, 你觉得送宝宝到DAYCARE是受罪吗? 你不觉得宝宝在家一个人玩很孤单?过过集体生活好象也没有什么不好的,你说呢?
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* W, m$ ?; d) _' ?0 ^" a- oTO kevin1105, "那个幼儿园管理好不好,老师素质"真不好看出,明天看看;请问问,你怎样过度让宝宝一个人呆DARECARE,陪了他多少天啊?我朋友也说送了后宝宝学会很多东西.不知道他们怎么收费的，一次交一个月吗?要签合同的吧.

jimmy2005

<TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width=416 border=0><TBODY><TR><TD width=5></TD><TD>How Your Baby Learns to Love
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5 r1 Q) o( E& Y</TD></TR><TR><TD width=5></TD><TD></TD></TR><TR><TD colSpan=2> </TD></TR><TR><TD colSpan=2><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width=416 border=0><TBODY><TR><TD width=10></TD><TD>Earliest Feelings</TD><TD width=10></TD></TR><TR><TD> </TD><TD>Many parents are surprised when their little ones demonstrate strong feelings of affection -- does a baby or toddler actually have the emotional skills to show such feelings? The answer is a resounding yes. Most children form deep, loving bonds with their parents and friends from a very early age. It starts before a child can verbally express his likes or dislikes, according to Lawrence Cohen, PhD, author of Playful Parenting (Ballantine, 2001). Even newborns feel attachment from the moment they're born!
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9 z5 c5 p% u. W8 o( rDuring their time in the womb, babies hear, feel, and even smell their mothers, so it's not hard to believe that they're attached right from birth. But as any adoptive parent will tell you, biology is only part of the love story. Young babies bond emotionally with people who give them regular care and affection. In fact, the first step in ensuring that your baby will bond with others is to attend to his needs in a timely fashion and let him know that he's loved. A baby is dependent on caregivers for everything from nourishment to safety, so her initial bond is very strong, explains D'Arcy Lyness, PhD, a child psychologist and psychology editor for KidsHealth.org. It also sets the standard for what a baby expects in later relationships in terms of emotional security, trust, and predictability. All of your loving care comes back when your baby reaches or babbles to you.

We've all heard that imitation is a form of flattery. This is true for babies too. In fact, imitation is a way in which babies show their preference for certain people over others. You'll see that between 3 and 6 months of age, your baby will try to mimic your actions.

</TD><TD> </TD></TR><TR><TD colSpan=3> </TD></TR><TR><TD width=10></TD><TD>Showing Their Love</TD><TD width=10></TD></TR><TR><TD> </TD><TD>Before 8 months of age, a baby's signs of affection are rather subtle. That is, until stranger anxiety and separation anxiety kick in. Hand your baby to a relative or babysitter -- even someone he's met before -- and he'll cry for you. As flattering as this may seem at first, it'll get old if hysteria sets in every time you leave the room. Fortunately, separation anxiety will lessen over time, and the same tactics you've always employed to make sure your baby feels save and secure -- meeting his needs and showing him love -- will give him the security to explore relationships with others.

It's also around this time that babies start to demonstrate affection for their peers, provided they've spent lots of time with other babies. The signs may be subtle: Your 9-month-old lights up when a friend comes over and is sad when he leaves. You may also notice that as soon as your baby can crawl, he'll go to one special friend, adds Cohen.

' {0 g8 X( C5 VAround the 1-year mark, babies learn affectionate behaviors such as kissing. It starts as an imitative behavior, says Lyness, but as a baby repeats these behaviors and sees that they bring happy responses from the people he's attached to, he becomes aware that he's pleasing the people he loves. As a result, your baby will start to use these behaviors more frequently.

( g& v( Q( \5 m& e</TD><TD> </TD></TR><TR><TD colSpan=3> </TD></TR><TR><TD width=10></TD><TD>Making Friends</TD><TD width=10></TD></TR><TR><TD> </TD><TD>For lots of kids, toddlerhood is a prime time for friendship. Toddlers have the memory to recall enjoyable experiences with others, can clearly demonstrate their affection for other kids verbally, and are beginning to understand empathy. Encourage your child to form friendships as a toddler: Studies show that the earlier kids learn to form positive relationships, the better they are at relating to others as teenagers and adults. Playing with peers also helps kids practice social behaviors, such as kindness, sharing, and cooperation, says Lyness.

Even so, how quickly your child develops into a social creature may also depend on his temperament. Some toddlers are very social, but others are shy. In addition, the way that toddlers demonstrate that they like other children is markedly different from what adults think of as expressions of friendship. Research at Ohio State University in Columbus found that a toddler's way of saying "I like you" during play is likely to come in the form of mimicking a friend's behavior.
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% k9 b# q8 F9 r; n( K6 _& X5 Y# c0 T! zThis seemingly unusual way of demonstrating affection can result in unpleasant behavior. After all, toddlers are still toddlers. Regardless of how much they like a playmate, they may still grab his toys, throw tantrums, refuse to share, and get bossy. But experts say that this is a normal and necessary part of friendship for kids this age. Through play experiences, toddlers learn social rules, says Lyness. That's why it's so important to take an active roll in your toddler's social encounters by setting limits and offering frequent reminders of what they are. When you establish these guidelines, explain the reasons behind them. ("Hitting hurts. If you want a toy, ask for it nicely.")

* N! O# w  b/ Z7 aBegin by helping your child learn compassion ("Ben is crying. What's making him so sad? Maybe he wants the ball and you have it now"), then suggest how he could resolve the problem ("Maybe he would feel better if you give him a turn"). When your child shares or shows empathy toward a friend, praise him. ("Ben stopped crying! You made him feel better.")
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Another way to encourage healthy social interaction is by encouraging kids to use words -- not fists -- to express how they feel. It's also important to be mindful of how your child's personality affects playtime. Kids are cranky when they're sleepy or hungry, points out Lyness, so schedule playtime when they're refreshed.
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Post by saring
% L, b2 I9 K0 J 如果您觉的自己的事情比较重要，那就送好了，病是少不了的，而且照顾肯定不如自己，即使送到Daycare去了，肯定自己的事情也做不好，老是挂念担心的。

是这样的. 所以取决于你自己的事重不重要. 自己能带, 就不要送, 不能带, 送了也就送了. 很多妈妈要上班, 不得不送. 也就这么过来了.

irisq

对不起，家里出了点事,没有空跟这个帖子. 也谢谢大家给的意见.
) o3 u( B/ y$ c- {# F, F! v% G我们一家去看了DAYCARE,觉得还挺好，后来还是觉得太远,一天接送就得在路上花2-3小时，自己也没有省下什么时间，还有就是宝宝小，觉得还是听她医生的话，先别送了,打完一岁的VACINATION再说，不过那个时候就很难上到公立的DAYCARE了,再说吧.

TO saring, 我有个朋友,也不是不得不送(BB没到8个月)，送了后觉得挺好，很活跃的, 性格很好, 吃,睡都很好，去了一个月说跟DAYCARE的孩子学到很多东西，现在回家带更省事. 我想送和不送都各有利弊吧.

1 _- J* }2 B/ r$ nTO kevin1105,谢谢你这么的意见，真的很好，你BB的DAYCARE还真不错, 自己带孩子真是很不容易，生活很不一样了,可是挺值得的.

; s- O$ j6 \9 M, b, v) w. }. l也谢谢jimmy2005给的信息，是哪个网站的? 你也是BAOBAO家长吗, 还这么有时间看这方面的信息, 我们现在忙的都要把HIGH SPEED给取消了.