是爱吗？

在你左边 · 发表于 2003-4-27 09:00

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爱情这东西挺厉害，让你生就得生，让你死就得死，顶不济也弄你个“为伊消得人憔悴”。但人这东西比爱情还厉害，死过去还会活过来，活过来还会再爱。你满怀深情，说你今生今世再也不会像爱他（她）一样去爱别的人了，我说那是因为你还嫩着哪，你还根本没搞清楚今生今世是怎么回事。
?确实，爱情绝对不是你想象的那么难以产生。老巴尔扎克早就说过，一对年龄相仿的男女，如果都健康、聪明，有类似的家世、趣味，那他们之间爱情的产生是很容易的事。恋爱，据一位美国哲学家的统计，只有十分之一和你的恋爱对象有关，十分之九都关乎你自己的想象。这一个不合适，换另一个就是，痛苦万状倒显得小气。

《乔峰》 · 发表于 2003-4-27 10:22

不要不甘心，不要放不下，所有的都已经过去，剩下的都只是不甘心，放下心情去面对前面的生活吧 :p

www25 · 发表于 2003-4-27 10:26

说得好“在我左边”。爱情的痛苦我们都经历过，倒下又站起来了，死去又活过来了，而且变得更聪明更坚强了。
to bigthing:不是你忘不掉，是你不让自己忘掉。别再折磨自己了，人生短暂，哪有时间为已逝去的感情而自怨自艾呢。

canadacontact · 发表于 2003-4-27 11:55

是性！

July3 · 发表于 2003-4-27 14:50

'Bigthing',退一步海阔天空！Someday, you'll find that this love is ridiculous. Just try to be yourself. Actually, the world is larger than what you are now in.

whoknowsxyz · 发表于 2003-4-27 15:16

If you truly loved him or still "love" him, forget about revenge; it's not a good thing if not a bloody evil! Try to avoid any communication (of whatever kind) with him, talk this out with your friends, go out and do some physical training, and I'm sure time will heal the wounds. Next time perhaps you should try to avoid getting yourself involved with someone who's still married...

whoknowsxyz · 发表于 2003-4-27 15:56

Although I'm feeling for you because you're very sad now. but it seems that you're both at fault. Why did you get involved with a married man in the first place? If he's still married, don't you think you might have also hurt the feelings of his wife? Though he's unfaithful to his wife (the bloody idiot never deserves any love from anyone!), he is by no means owned by you or anyone else! And don't be possessive! I hate people talking about revenge! It is certainly unhealthy to you or anyone else! I hope my cold words will serve to make you feel better somehow. Just forget him and get on with your life, and I'm sure you'll find your true love one day.

keqi · 发表于 2003-4-27 16:47

I can say nothing except " A silly woman"

big thing · 发表于 2003-4-27 22:23

从未想过要伤害他的太太,从未想过要把爱情变成婚姻,只想至真至纯的相处下去,只想让这种情感游离于婚姻之外.

暗夜疾行的猫 · 发表于 2003-4-27 23:48

bigthing：也许你觉得让你们的感情游离于婚姻之外是件很简单的事，可是他呢？毕竟已经结婚了，我想，当初他找你或许也只是一时的新鲜（这样说虽然有点残忍，但……），而且你自己也说了，是你无休止的纠缠才让他怕得要躲开。他如果真的不爱他太太而专心爱你，他早就该离婚了，可事实并非如此么。清醒点吧，你们不会有结果的，让自己过得开心就那么难吗？“在你左边”说得对，这也许就是女人的不甘，可这又有什么用呢？