la neige

toutes mes félicitations, tu es très chanceux, parce qu'il reste pas beacoup ce genre de filles, surtout au Canada. take care of her, you deserve it. How about her?

m_w

msb, look at your eyes, that hungry eyes for care and love. learn to give love, than you will be reward of it.

Princess

你 是 我 姐 ， 你 去 哪 了 ？
这 人 好 容 易 找 个 老 婆 ， 别 给 人 家 说 散 了 ！ 大 家 姐 大 欢 喜 ， 多 好 ！

888

Does she speak french, maybe it will be easier to communicate for you, maybe your english is good enough to do it, anyway, good luck for you , msb, don't let us disappointed

ronado

高尚是高尚者的选择，卑贱是卑贱者的权利。选择卑贱的私生活方式乃是自由的当然之意，捍卫卑贱的权利就是在捍卫自由，对卑贱的干涉就是对自由的伤害。自由就是容忍社会里的很多东西，很多格调低下的东西。一个个人拥有卑贱权利的社会就是一个宽容的社会，一个多元化生活方式的社会，一个从泛道德主义走向法治的社会，一个个人自由得到充分捍卫和尊重的社会。道德论者打着各种各样的道德旗号，来对别人的私生活横加指责，岂不知自由恰恰是最高的道德准则。正是在这个意义上，我要说，也许我不卑贱，但请给我卑贱的权利。

首先讲讲文化差异，许多鬼佬在找朋友的当时都认为自己是很认真的（发自内心的），但是他们考虑得很简单，就是讲feel，feel对了，3分钟就会要你做她的女朋友，当然，是以非常热情、nice、友善的态度。这样的情况如果你也是个浪漫主义者，或者是只在乎曾经拥有的人，那就一拍即合了。可是受中国文化培养长大的人往往不能真正做到这点，时间久了，你就会渴求现实稳定的归宿，从这方面考虑，就不乐观了。文化和生活习惯的差异是客观存在的，一厢情愿地去适应对大多数人不现实，双方交往的期望值也不同，比如你会认为双方今后的生活应该交融共享，但可能他的观点只是分享情感和肉体，其他是属于各自私人的东西，而且感觉不对了就各散东西。所以许多鬼佬讲的serious和我们理解的实际上是不同的。
其次，讲话有礼是受人尊重的，作为一般社交对象是好的。但并不等于这样的人就一定值得深交，许多鬼佬表面彬彬有礼，可是内心的价值观才是最重要的，否则也只是表面之交。性情相投的人在一起大碗喝酒，一起骂骂咧咧反而更开心，但这样的人不易交。平常在外谁不是彬彬有礼，可是能有几个知心？有的人讲话比较直，也许会刺痛你，但没准对你是好事。
在我看来，一个在东方文化培养下长大的人（思想基本成熟、定型）如果想彻底融入西方文化，放弃自身的根是不现实的，也是痛苦的。当然交交朋友，享受享受多元文化的乐趣是挺好的。
还有，并不等于会讲流利的洋文，讲话斯文，见到苍蝇老鼠就尖叫就是真正的上等人了。阿根廷作家博尔赫斯讲过一个笑话，说她妹妹学法语，后来看见苍蝇，就用法语惊叫。孩子妈在一边说道：叫什么叫，没见过苍蝇吗？你就是在苍蝇中长大的！
自由就是容忍社会里的很多东西，很多格调低下的东西。一个个人拥有卑贱权利的社会就是一个宽容的社会，一个多元化生活方式的社会。

ronado

msb, sorry for using yr place to write chinese. Because many chinese people discussed in this topic, I just want to share sth with them. So keep chasing girl and enjoy it.

msb

Dear friends, that seems to be jealousy of certain women. Do not forget what the Amitaba Buddha with known as, one can go in a paradise to finish its cultivation there even if there is still a little karma, but absolutely not if one is still jealous.

A pure heart does not write unpleasant things, a pure heart is a heart full with compassion.

Nobody, on site, can say malicious things on me. Those which do it, it is only by spite or jealousy. If somebody thinks that I made him evil, that he says it here, in front of everyone, or that he keep silent himself for always.

msb

m_w

msb, now i pull off ur mask, more and more real u r now. come on. show off more real character of u in front of us.
If u cannot keep ur calm, don't come back to our chinese community again. or wash ur brain first then come back.

ronado, u r wrong. yes, somebody have freedom to choose to be "bei jian", but u need to pay for it, that means in the real contact with people, u r "bei jian" also. there's no such an good deal, u r actually "bei jian", but others treat u as "gao shang". Here is the rule for freedom, you choose the way u live, then u get reward from it or pay for it.

m_w

we chinese are the self-displine people, though many people get lost in Canada ,on the other hand, also most of us keep our displine well. So, who wanna get into our community should learn to displine him/herself first.  if not, we just treat him what he should be treated.

m_w

妹, 是你吗? 你玩得很开心嘛.  :cool:   道理就是道理, 没规矩不能成方圆, 我们很多人已经走得很远了, 做人没一点准则.